I guess I need advice - Relationship Health Message Board

CourtiePourtie · 12-23-2002, 12:12 AM

I've never really done something like this. I recently broke up with my boyfriend of two years. A more accurate decription would be that I was dumped. We had been living together for about 6 months when he suggested that perhaps we not live together anymore. That progressed into lets not see each other anymore. Now, I am ashamed to admit, I am lost. I miss him terribly. I feel rejected and alone. He is all I think about. Iguess I just wanted to know that maybe someone knew how I felt.

jasmine30 · 12-23-2002, 02:20 AM

Hi Courtie,
Firstly,dont feel ashamed for feeling lost and alone.Cry let it out,talk to a close friend about how your feeling,give yourself the right to grieve.Breaking up or moving on in a relationship hurts like hell.Did your SO not even want to work through whatever problem you were having?If not,as hard as it is,his feelings,heart and love probably weren't where they should of been.Sure you feel rejected its one of the most painful things a person can feel.Is there any way the two of you could sit down and talk about this?Big hugs to you and hope everything works out for you.

Jasmine

CourtiePourtie · 12-25-2002, 09:38 PM

Hey Jasmine,
Thanks for the encouragement. The hardest part that we still love each other, he's made that dreadfully clear. Even gave me earrings for Christmas. He keeps saying that he stillloves me,but just doesn't want to be with me, or anyone- so he says. It's just hard to not be with someone that youlove- espically this time of year. It's the hardest at night I think when he's not in bed with me, and I can't hear him breathe as we fall asleep. A friend of mine told me that no matter howour relationship went, he would one day leave my life in one way or another. At least this way she said he's still around. I don't know if that makes me feel better or not. Thank you for your kind words. I know that I don't even know you,but I found your message touching.
Courtie

newdawn · 12-25-2002, 09:51 PM

Sweetie,
I know it hurts so much but you sound like you are handling it well.. I am not one for any rejection I have a serious problem with it..and its so difficult.. sometimes.. just get through the holidays as best you can

let me know how you are doing please???
take care,Renee'

feelingbad · 12-26-2002, 01:37 PM

courtie, don't feel ashamed. it's hard when people break up. you feel alone and depressed. we've all been thru that. it's a natural emotion, nothing to be ashamed about. not to give you false hope, but he may just be going thru some hard times within himself, and maybe he'll realize what he has lost. jasmine is right, you should talk to a close friend. don't keep it inside, it will only drive you crazy. i wish you the best. hang in there.
brian