5 Months and... - Relationship Health Message Board

fate13 · 04-08-2003, 12:33 AM

We haven't argued at all!! Is this a good or bad thing? I feel like it will never happen. It just seems weird to me because every relationship I've been in we have argued by now. But, that could just be why they haven't lasted. Well, Just curious. Thanks!

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maryett · 04-08-2003, 01:22 AM

Two words: Honeymoon period. It won't last, but then again it's not meant to, or else neither of you would get to know each other as you really are.

chippie · 04-08-2003, 06:57 AM

We didn't argue until about a year into the relationship. I think mostly because we only saw each other on weekends. The first year we lived together, we made up for it. We are finally good at just discussing our issues although occasionally, we discuss LOUDLY.

missychacha · 04-08-2003, 07:22 AM

Yep: Honeymoon Period. Mine lasted three mos. It was nice.

It's bad but, I still compare our current relationship to our Honeymoon Period relationship. (why don't you talk to me the way you used to, why don't we have sex every night..bla bla bla...)

Dr. Phil said that you cannot expect to fall in love forever. Once it's done, real life takes over and you cannot compare that first per. w/ the comfort and crap that takes over life once it comes back into the realm of normal.

blurr · 04-08-2003, 10:30 AM

I don't think it necessarily has to do with still being in the "honeymoon period". Granted, five months is still somewhat early on in a relationship, but I think it has to do more with the temperament of the individuals rather than arguing being an inevitability.

I say this because I have also been with my guy for about 5 months, now...just a bit more. We have a few minor "issues", but when something comes up, we talk about it...say what's bothering us and how we both feel..and it never turns into a big argument. As well, like I said before, I think it has to do with the mind-set of each person, because I've noticed that my bf and I are both *very* calm and laid-back around each other (we have BOTH noticed how unusal it is!) and nothing really seems to dig into us. I think we both just have that effect on each other. I've never had it with anyone else before.

I have been in relationships in the past, both serious and not so serious. In those relationships, I have argued, argued, fought, and argued more with the other person...it was just part of our "clashing" personalities at work.

With my current relationship, it's different..and I don't see it changing anytime too soon. I love it like that, but I am prepared for a bit more of reality to set in. This is a relationship that is *worth* anything that might come our way.. heh heh...corny, but true.

blurr