what do i do? i dk how i feel..... - Relationship Health Message Board

JennyAngie · 04-13-2003, 05:00 PM

so...im really good friends with this guy i know. hes one of my best friends. the problem is, just a little while ago he told me he loved me. that he couldnt get me off his mind and hes been trying to get over me for months now. i dont know if i like him or not...i mean i know i love him as a friend, but i dont know if i really kno the difference between loving someone as a friend, or more. we talk pretty much every day on the phone, and i could probably tell him just about anything. we went out once but only for a few days...becuz i was so stressed about it and i couldnt sleep at night, so i broke up with him. then he asked me out on valentines day...and a few days later i told him no. i think im sorta scared to go out with him becuz, he can be so mature and so serious...and i dk if hes really in love with me, i dk how he could be. but all i know is that he thinks he is. anyways please help. thanks...

sprout · 04-13-2003, 10:16 PM

Jenny,

If you feel uncomfortable in a relationship with him that goes beyond being friends, say so and tell him that you value the friendship that the two of you have and wish to keep it on that level at this time in your life. You cannot force yourself to love someone. If the thought of a relationship with him causes you to lose sleep...that is a fairly good indication that it isn't meant to be.

If he values your friendship as much as you do, he will respect the fact that you do not wish to go beyond that. The most important thing is to be honest with him and tell him in a compassionate way.

Good luck to you,

sprout

[This message has been edited by sprout (edited 04-14-2003).]