broken home - Relationship Health Message Board

newmom · 04-16-2003, 03:08 PM

i hav been in a relationship with a guy for 5 years i hav two boys 1yr and 2yrs. We had a pretty good relationship for awhile but, he has cheated on me with 3 diffrent girls one my best friend so when his brother-in law came on to me i got stupid and slept with him not once but for a couple months everyone in his family found out i moved out for a couple months and he asked me to move back in i did and now 4 more months later he still calls me a ***** every day he says i will always be a ***** and now im trying to move out again,im heartbroken he used to be my lover,best friend and the father to my two boys(my only 2 i regretfully got my tubes burned) now i feel like when he looks at me i make him sick what should i think???????

maryett · 04-16-2003, 04:20 PM

My advice is simple. Leave.

This is a toxic, emotionally abusive relationship. You are never going to win with this guy. He has affairs behind your back - what a jerk. Then when you do the same thing he calls you a *****. He can't love you if he does these things to you. His whole family sounds vile actually.

Cut your losses, move out and start afresh. Not just for you but do you want your kids to see all this crap going on? They'll just end up treating you the same way he does. Find a man who actually loves and cares about you!

Autumn Angel · 04-17-2003, 06:51 PM

Agreed ...Leave and he has got some nerve too...Least you were with ONE man how about 3 women and he has the gaul to call you that?? Though all were wrong here you were faithful he broke the relationship you just did something about your unhappiness. I would leave and take your sons with you.
Autumn.

badgirl · 04-17-2003, 07:03 PM

You let this guy lower your standards and morals, never get down on their level, I would try to get out and forget about him before he robs you of the rest of your self-esteem. Good Luck, Badgirl

mydog8mybrain · 04-17-2003, 09:04 PM

Good heavens. What a jerk. Hon, time to pack your bags and hit the road. Don't put up with that any longer than you have to.

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