Sick and tired of being pushed away!!!!!!! - Relationship Health Message Board

Piscean33 · 08-13-2003, 09:43 PM

Me and b/f have been together for almost 3 years now. He's 20 and I'm 18. Our relationship is fine except when it comes to sex. He never wants to!! I'm always trying to come onto him and I strip in front of him and he barely even notices anymore. I'm just scared that he's getting tired of being with me and he's no longer interested, even though when we talk about it he denies it (of course he will, what guy wouldn't?). I'm not the least bit tired of him and I like to have sex at least once a day (of course I never get that lucky). It's usually 2-3 times a week. And everytime I try to come onto him he gets all ****y with me and pushes me away and tells me he's not in the mood. I get sick of it and it hurts me. Then he gets mad at me for being mad at him because he never wants to have sex!! Another thing is he doesn't want me to masterbate, and he doesn't either so I agreed not too (that was back when we did have sex almost everyday). I'm a very honest and trustworthy type of person and when I say I'm not going to do something I don't. I'm just tired of not being satisfied!! Of course when he IS actually horny he expects me to just jump his bones, and when I get the chance I do, but when it comes to me, tough ****!! That's what ****es me off. It makes me feel like he doesn't care about me, just himself. It hurts

. What do I do about this?? I need your opinions!! Please help!

roni624 · 08-13-2003, 10:55 PM

Has he started acting differently in any other part of the relationship? If so there could be a POSSIBILTY of another woman involved. He may even be under a lot of stress. Another thing that could be wrong is his health. Can you go a little more in depth for me. Iam afraid this all I can help you with for now.-Roni

Creeping Crud · 08-14-2003, 09:47 AM

Hey Piscean,

No offense, but if you're getting it 2-3 times a week, you're getting it a whole lot more than most people.. That's every other day, for goodness sake.. I don't really see any cause for concern, nor does that type of frequency suggest to me that he doesn't want you..

If you've been together 3 years and you think 2-3 times a week is bad, just wait until you're together 7 or 8 years and are only getting it 2-3 times a month (if that)..

I don't mean to sound cynical, but passion fades, people fall into routines and if your sex drive is that much more active than his, you can take matters into your own hands regardless of your aged promise.. It'd be different if you were using self gratification as a substitute for sex, but that's hardly the case..

Anyway, I wish you the best of luck..

Take Care,
Melanie

roni624 · 08-14-2003, 10:57 AM

Creeping Crud is right about that!!!!

-Roni

TroubledYouth · 08-14-2003, 11:27 AM

...you asked for opinions so dont get mad if you dont like my opinion....maybe he doesnt think your good at having sex....there are classes for couples to make things more interesting and to teach each partner how to do things better...just a thought

or maybe hes gay

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