i'm so scared - Relationship Health Message Board

ellekay · 08-17-2003, 05:56 AM

hey u guys....i've been in love with my friend for as long as i remember and i though he loved me too, but now i hear he tells people that he's NOT leading me onto anything in his eyes, which is total crap cuz without him i wouldnt be where i am today...lost and confused.
What should i do?

nixie · 08-17-2003, 09:37 AM

You need to talk to him. Does he know how you feel? You seem like you are in a state od semi panic and that is not good. I know that when you love someone you get all wrapped up in them even before anything happens, but you need to chill and find out the truth about how he feels about you. Good Luck!

JoJo1972 · 08-17-2003, 10:02 AM

I had a best friend who was a guy. We were close for about 5 years. He started telling me how beautiful I was every single time we talked. Then he asked me out. I kept telling him no because I didn't want to ruin the friendship between us. I finally agreed to go out on a date with him. I fell in love. We dated and it was absolutely wonderful. Then he cheated on me. I lost a best friend and a boyfriend. I missed the friendship more than anything. I seen him at the store a couple of years later. We spoke and I could tell he missed our friendship also. We never became friends again. He died a couple of years ago.Maybe you shouldn't risk a good friendship. Good luck!

villagegal68455 · 08-17-2003, 10:04 AM

i totally agree with jojo...i'm sorry that happened to her...but you know that line about staying just friends...it's true...i said that to a male friend once and we are still friends...it hurt him for awhile that i turned him down, but he got over it and now has a wonderful wife...and i have a wonderful husband as well...you need to talk to this guys seriously and see for sure what he really wants...if staying just friends is best, i know it will hurt, but do you really want to lose a friend if the love part doesn't work out...i'll keep you in my thoughts...

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ellekay · 08-17-2003, 11:01 PM

He has told me a while ago that he has feelings for me, but only after i fessed up and told him first. but he said he's scared and confused.
he has a lot of issues in his life and doesnt want to be tied down, but i'm confused cause he reckons he's not leading me on when he clealy is.
I dunno......i give up.