packattack

I have known this girl for just over 4 months now and we are really good friends. Both of us have expressed feelings, in one way or another, for each other and have gotten together on multiple occasions for games, movie, etc. We get lunch together once a week and usually catch a couple other meals as well. Towards the beginning of our friendship she could tell that I liked her, but she said she had made a promise to herself, not to date anybody while she was getting comfortable with her surroundings (college). I respected that, and although I kept my options open, she had still seemed like someone I could really connect with, so I wait. Last week she asked if we could talk, and I met up with her. She first described her guilt in making me wait and such. She also tried to tell me that she didn't think we should date because it would ruin our "friendship circle" and for that reason, she couldn't see us dating. Respectful of her feelings over mine, I took it well and tried to make her feel like she hadn't hurt me. (Although it did, I thought telling her that would have made her feel bad and I thought it would be better if I felt bad instead...) Since this discussion, she has maintained these get-togethers and continues to text me about how things are going. I'm not sure if she told me off because of her desires or if her friend's, but I really like her. I'm not sure if I should talk to her and see if she'll date me, even though she's "rejected" me or not...I don't want to be bothersome, but I don't want the "one" disappear...help???