Depressed bf becoming distant
I've been dating my bf for 4 months, but we had an instant connection and both agreed we felt different than we had with previous relationships. Everything was great at first, but he's suffering from depression and it's affecting our relationship.
Lately he is becoming distant and uninterested in lots of things or really anything physical. He's suffered depression before and he's been very open about it with me and we've had discussions about it before this bout.
Unfortunately, he now also is experiencing some financial problems after taking time off from work to deal with the depression, which has added to the stress and depression. We're both in tight financial situations, which makes it hard to even go out and do fun things.
He says he doesn't want to lose me and cares, but he's afraid to get too close so I don't get hurt by him and his illness. I know he cares and I can't walk away...I know it's not a personal thing toward me, but it is hard to see him distant and feeling like I almost have to force any physical contact lately. on one hand, he doesn't turn me away if I try to cuddle or kiss, but we haven't had sex in almost 2 months. When he was at his lowest point, he had trouble with erections, so i think that may be part of it too.
I am there to support him, but how can i help him deal with the depression and get back to his old self and still keep my sanity!? I've done alot of reading, and still have my personal interests and activities, but I can't help but worry about him... I've never felt this strongly about someone and can't walk away, but it's hard to deal with someone who was initially very open and physical and interested now being so distant. help!