| | Relationship Wall?
I just need some opinions please. I have been dating someone for almost 5 months now. At first we saw each other everyday for a month, which I loved. Now we only see each other 2 or 3 nights a week. I took a job that I'm currently commuting to each day. Usually an hour and a half each way, which is exhausting at times, but I’m starting to get used to it. Anyway I went on a trip with this guy two days after Christmas to Washington D.C. We spent one night there and I went to his apartment the night before and the night after. We spent a lot of time together, but our trip was amazing. I felt so much closer to him and I loved our time together. Afterward he needed some “me” time, which was difficult to understand at first, but I get it now. The problem is, I feel like he has this wall up. I know he cares about me, but he has a difficult time saying it. He was cheated on in the past and suffers from PTSD, so I’m trying to be patient.
He kisses me, and will hold my hand in public, and has many other sweet gestures but when I try to talk to him about how he feels he kind of jokes about it and avoids the question. I called him out on it last night. We were joking around and he made a funny insult (we have a strange sense of humor) and “I said you know, you should be nicer to me” in a joking way. He said “I’m an a-hole, what can I say”. I thought this would be a good moment to share my insights with him. I told him that I think he acts that way as a cover, because he really is a nice guy who is afraid of getting hurt. I’ve told him, I would never do anything to hurt him, but I still feel like that wall is there. I also feel like it is preventing us from moving forward.
Any advice for tearing that wall down?