I married my husband sixteen years ago. We brought three children a piece into the marriage he had two girls and a son, I had three girls. Although there were extremely hard times we managed. All the children while in my household lived by the same rules. After two years of marriage we had a son together. The children and I had a wonderful relationship while my husband was working which at that time was alot. I worked out of my home so was always there only to have distruction happen as soon as my husband came home from work , anger, frustration yelling it got to the point when our son turned five I had to ask him to leave . We were seperated for nine years only to reunite in 2010 it's been almost a year and the same things are happening again. My son is fourteen and hormonal, his dad buys him things, expensive I might add to show him love, whereas I have always tried to maintain the decipline of working for what you want and no is no consistantcy. Our home has turned into a battle field . I designated me Chief of this island two nights ago and took my son phone new expensive headphones out of disapline and locked away in our safe. I gave him four weeks restriction for everything that keeps building from disrespect to grades dropping
The son is in the sucking up mood to get what he wants I know the anger and frustration will come but how do I keep dad on board with me no yelling, fighting or him feeling sorry for the son. Just one night the dad came in and said the son was crying, to bad he has to learn no and this is tough love before things go further on a road to self distruction. I'm sorry this is so long but have alot to vent. Please need advice and someone with experience.