So I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now, and he's a year and some months younger than me. (I just turned 19 and he'll be 18 this year) At first we had the perfect relationship: we talked all the time, hung out all the time, were inseparable, etc. Now, I know relationships don't STAY like that so it's not just ignorance speaking. But what we had was really good, in my opinion. A year later though, things are a lot different. In between then and now, I have been to military boot camp, completely abandoned him for 5 months, we broke up for a couple of months and then I ended up coming back home and we got back together. I came home to him having really bad anxiety, being completely different, and blaming my leaving for his behavior, and I honestly don't know how to deal with it. Partly because I know that me leaving really hurt him. There really isn't much romance between us and he pretty much just treats me like one of his friends. I mean, there's no doubt in my mind that he loves and cares for me, but he just doesn't show it how he used to. We see each other every day, and hang out with the same people, but I don't have very many female friends so it seems as though we are ALWAYS together. Even then, when we're together, we're not really "together." He's either playing video games, on the computer, or something else. Once again, I know he can't be with me 24/7 but it would be nice if he understood that I just want his undivided attention SOMETIMES. When we're good, we're really good. But when we're bad, we're really, really bad. We argue all the time, mainly because I get needy and clingy sometimes and he gets aggravated with it. I feel like my constant need for attention is ruining us, but other times, I feel like he doesn't care, which isn't true. He likes to pick on me and irritate me because he thinks it's funny, and doesn't understand that I get offended sometimes. Also, for one reason or another, he doesn't have a car for whatever reason, or a job because his anxiety is so bad so I'm always driving and always paying for things, which is super frustrating for me. I just never have the right words to talk to him about this subject because he's so touchy and gets mad about it really easy. I don't know what to do.