My drinking wife and my dilema
My wife drinks a large bottle Chardonnay everyday, more on the weekends. She has has chronic shingles for more than 2 years. 1-2 months with Shingles and then maybe 1-2 without. The cycle continues. I really feel for her cause it is awful and she has received no real help, but worse won't be proactive to get help. She drank a lot before all this, but now she takes Percocet everyday, even when the shingles have eventually subsided. At first, due to the fact that she got no relief from anything, I was like "well, whatever helps you feel better".
She is completely functioning, never misses work, works hard and does a good job. But it affects our relationship. Sunday is designated by her and usually consists of brunch at 10-10:30am with drinking and ends at 9-10pm at night. Her sister in law, an alcoholic is usually her counterpart. I don't want anything to go with Sunday Fun Day and find myself, depressed, comtemplating divorce, etc.
When I broach the subject or when I'm in a bad mood as a result of her drinking, she's drunk and not worth having a conversation with. She can't hold a conversation most anytime because "i'm attacking her".
I'm on the brink. Sometimes I want out, other times, I'd rather just not live. She's such a nice person, but worthless when she's drunk. Sex life is poor to mediocre, particularly considering we have no kids. We take 1 step forward and 3 steps back.
Looking for guidance. I'm tired of making her doctor appointments, and won't consider getting her help because she is not proactive and it goes nowhere.
PLEASE HELP ME!