Re: Girl I've known for 26 years tells me she was raped... advice please
Well, I finally talked to her about what happened, and the answers were mixed. I would like to know what you all think of what she said.
The first thing she told me what that me telling her this was unexpected, and that she really didn't know what to say. She said it was a while ago and that we both had a lot to drink that day- no kidding. Then she said she remembered that she did tell me something, but not exactly what. She said that, yes, she was assaulted, but the situation did not get any farther than that. Not really sure what she meant by that, and that she was really going through a lot at the time. She did say that she was very sorry for dropping that bomb on me and that it was unfair of her to do so. Also that she didn't know why she told me this because she didn't tell anyone close to her at all, including her own family. Then, she said she could never repay me for not telling anyone we know about it ever at all. Ever she stressed in bold. She was adamant that this stayed between us only, understandably. She did say that she couldn't imagine what I thought of her or think of her now after she told me this. I told her it didn't matter.
She e-mailed me later on and said thank you again and that she wanted me to call her soon.
Still, a few things don't quite add up here. She kept using a lot of words like honestly, as best as I can remember, and so on and then said that she knew that she told me something, but not exactly what. Well, that was obvious because like I said in an earlier post, she was avoiding me somewhat after telling me all of this.
Would like to hear what some of you think about this. Thanks again.