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Old 03-04-2011, 06:50 PM   #1
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Odd step-dad

Hi there. I have a step-dad who is cool enough, but very quiet, unresponsive and his only interaction with me for the most part is reminding me to do something, or a rule that I broke, or trying to accuse me of stuff that I didn't do. It's not the end of the world, but I want to know whether or not he has any "disorders," but he is far too stubborn to ever check. I also am wondering if there is any way to have more of a relationship with him, other than this cold, distant style. Thanks!

 
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Re: Odd step-dad

I know what you mean. In other words, you want to break the ice. That is very thoughtful of you.

But it is hard to give you any advice, since we don't know you guys. I was thinking that you might try to learn something about the Enneagram. Try to find out what your type and his type are and look for the best ways for those types to interact.

 
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Re: Odd step-dad

My step-dad is exactly the same. He's a good man, he just never was paternal, not good with interacting with children. I can't even blame it on the fact that we weren't his biological children because he was exactly the same with his biological son.

My mum used to try and get him to take us places, but that only worked at the time and only lasted a day.

Now we're grown up I suppose the pattern has already been layed down and nothings really changed. His parents had him fairly late and his dad never really showed an interest in him.

I doubt your step-dad has a disorder, it's most likely a personality thing.

 
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Re: Odd step-dad

great! That helps clarify a lot. I'm doing a lot to work on my own issues, perhaps that will help with this situation.

 
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