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Old 03-05-2011, 06:16 AM   #1
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what to get your guy for his b-day when your strapped?

hello. i'm dating a man who has a good heart deep down, but we're on and off dating for over 3 1/2 years and he's just not that into me, i believe. he doesnt want to live together, move forward as far as being serious, and seems like we're always headed for downhill, especially lately. it's his birthday and i am out of ideas because he has everything, and when i have gotten him Christmas gifts or whatever kinds of gifts in the past, he scoffs at them and throws them aside as if they were too cheap for him to look at. but yet he is extremely senstitive about birthdays and Christmas presents. i''m always strapped and scraping by- but want to get him something but have no clue what. or is it wrong to not get him anything? he doesn't like things that are less than hundreds of dollars so i'm leaning towards not getting him anything, but that might seem rude. i'm not good at these situations, any ideas??? thanks,

 
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Re: what to get your guy for his b-day when your strapped?

What!!!! I have to read this again. I can't believe you are keen about giving this man a birthday present when he scoffs at them and throws them aside if ... Don't you think this is rude and not getting him anything? I'd send him a card, if anything.

 
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Re: what to get your guy for his b-day when your strapped?

I totally agree! Also, it sounds like the gift thing is a metaphor for the whole relationship - you putting in the work, and him rejecting. Why are you even letting this person in your life. As a gift suggestion, a "Dear John" letter springs to mind...Sera

 
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Re: what to get your guy for his b-day when your strapped?

Is this the same guy that is abusive, 100% alcoholic, and treats you like S---? The same one you were complaining about in January? I'm confused here!!! Why are you even considering getting this vinegar sac anything? I have an idea...give him a door slam in the face, and leave gift!!!!! That doesn't cost anything...so no worries on your part about being "strapped."

 
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Re: what to get your guy for his b-day when your strapped?

Agreed with the others. He gets nothing! If he complains about it, tell him he never liked anything you gave him, so you decided not to get him anything! End of discussion! He sounds like a complete jerk, why are you even still talking to him?

 
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Re: what to get your guy for his b-day when your strapped?

I'll tell ya about the same. Leave him in the wind and move on with you're head held HIGH!!!
The wife and I of 20 years have never been materialistic because that don't buy true love,
we sacrifice about everything for our kids,we used to do lots of things go out and so fourth like back in 92-93 LOL

But now it's all for the kids and running my construction business was a 24/7 job... I lived the job for over 20 years and the wife loves me for it not feeling left out.
We have a house paid for lived good for a long time till I have had some issues the last five years and the last year has put me down.
I feel like an old lame dog BUT GUESS WHAT SHE STILL LOVES MEEEEEE for me, and works now to support us as she has been a stay at home mom for 17 years.
What you have there is unhealthy and potentially dangerous for both of you!
Mentally abusive guy needs to be put in his place the gutter or doghouse,and move on to find that true love your heart desires.
I'm sorry to be so forward but it sounds like the proper advice.

I wanna say high to everyone, Ibeen lurking for a while around here and couldn't let this go by without saying something hope it's helpful.. take care and find that guy that's gonna be the one for you.

 
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Re: what to get your guy for his b-day when your strapped?

How about a figurative kick in the pants?

He treats you lousy and rudely rejects every gift you give him and you want to give him more? How come?

I wouldn't even bother telling him why you are getting him nothing. I'd just not even mention his birthday and if he is rude enough to ask where his gift is, I'd ask him if he wanted his kick in the pants now or later.

BTW, has he ever given you a gift?

 
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Re: what to get your guy for his b-day when your strapped?

Why bother wasting your money. He doesn't want whatever you get him anyway, so get him nothing.

You're not rude, he is - extremely.

Get yourself a present instead and find a boyfriend who deserves your efforts.

 
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Re: what to get your guy for his b-day when your strapped?

what an ungrateful heartless man. why buy him anything when he acts like that and also doesnt seem that into you as you say ? dont buy him anything the ungrateful jerk.

 
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Re: what to get your guy for his b-day when your strapped?

Yeah, I highly doubt he's ever bought you a gift for over a hundred dollars. I am straight up begging you not to get him anything. Tell him he never liked your gifts anyway, if he even brings it up cause he feels entitled. I hope you break up with him, sincerely, for your sake.

 
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