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Old 03-11-2011, 08:48 AM   #1
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Question Brother sending political and religious emails?

What do you say to family member that continues to send very polital and religious based emails to you? These emails do not represent our views AT ALL! Is there a nice way to get this person to stop? What can we say? I thought that it was just common sense to not discuss religion and politics with friends or family? YA KNOW? In my case this is my BIL sending emails to my husband(in otherwords, my husband's brother is the one doing it)...my husband and getting madder and madder with each email!
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Re: Brother sending political and religious emails?

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I had someone doing that to me, and I used to think this person was very nice, a decent person, but when they started sending me that junk which was the opposite of what I believed, i started getting angry. I didn't respond at first, just deleted them, but after a while, I replied and said please don't send me anymore of this propaghanda because I don't agree with it, and I went on to explain why. They wrote back, their viewpoint, and we argued back and forth on a couple emails and I don't hear from them anymore. I'm guessing your situation won't be as simple since they are a family member, but you have to be firm and make your point known that you don't appreciate it.

 
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Re: Brother sending political and religious emails?

There are only two ways, as far as I can see:

Your husband tells his brother that he (husband) is not willing or in the mood to read this kind of material. (I don't think this will sound particularly rude.)

Or your husband blocks his brother's email from his (husband's) inbox.

 
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Re: Brother sending political and religious emails?

I think your husband could say no to your BIL and also delete the unwelcome emails from him. Well is he a pastor or a pious member? He may mean well, but if your husband tells your BIL to stop it, he probably will. If he continues, just delete them or put it into spam. If you remove his emal addy from the contact in yahoo, it may go to spam, for example.

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Re: Brother sending political and religious emails?

When this happens to me, I just delete the junk. It isn't worth getting into an argument or hurting someone's feelings over it. Just tell your husband to delete them without reading them. It only take 1/2 of a second.

 
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Re: Brother sending political and religious emails?

He can probably figure out the topic of the email by the subject. He should just delete it and move on with his day. I agree it's not worth getting in a fight about. There are far more important things in life to get upset about than junkmail in your email box.

 
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Re: Brother sending political and religious emails?

Thanks everyone for your input...I guess it would be best to just delete it and forget about it. I think what bugs my husband the most is that his brother knows that he does not share these same views but yet insists on sending this junk.

ninamarc, no his brother is not anything but just a church goer, he isn't a pastor or anything like that...I suppose if he was then I would see but still not the polital stuff though.

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Re: Brother sending political and religious emails?

Well, perhaps deleting and ignoring would be best, but if that gets to be too much for your hubbie, he might just want to tell his brother "look, you know I don't feel this way, I respect your right to your beliefs, but I'm tired of you hitting me over the head with them, as if it's going to force me to change my mind, which it won't. Please stop." If his brother has any respect for him at all, he will stop. I had an email pal who did this to me, and I just told her "you don't need to include me on these email lists. These aren't my views and they won't change my views." And she agreed, and we don't discuss it. I think it's a good policy to avoid discussing religion or politics with people that you aren't certain won't be offended by your views. I personally love a good political discussion with people who may disagree with me on a few points but who generally point to the same end of the spectrum as I do, and i think it's ok as long as you're polite and respectful of the other person's point of view. But people I know are at the other end, whose views I know I don't respect at all, I don't bother.

 
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Re: Brother sending political and religious emails?

You say that your BIL knows your husband doesn't share the same views, but has he actually been asked to stop sending those kinds of emails?

Ask him to stop, and if he carries on just junk them when you get them. It's not worth creating a rift between your husband and brother over this if you can just ignore them.

 
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