I MAKE my boyfriend sleep on the couch.....I don't want him in bed with me......he snores, farts, gets up before me, and gets up every couple hours to go to the bathroom.....I need a good nights sleep.
1. I reccomend you read "The Selfish Path To Romance" by Edwin A. Locke and Ellen Kenner.
2. The Specific issue.
A) 4 hours sleep, that is crazy. I would be a zombie a feel depressed. Sounds like abusing caffeine, which should only be used on occasion. You need about 8.5 hours sleep.
B) Sleeping on the couch with lights and/or TV on is a clear behavior disorder in my opinion from psychological issues of anxiety. A person is not trying to fill their mind due to desire of knowledge, but instead drown out their thoughts with stimulus untill they sleep. It is often common for people under stress to change the setting of sleep to a more natural place of wakefulness I believe. There is some psychological drive to resist the place of sleeping and to sleep where you are. I never fall asleep by the TV or couch, but on rare occasion when very stressed I felt this desire to sleep in a non sleeping place. I won't analyze it further though since it is difficult to understand. I have also observed people who do this many nights and they are the most psychologically problemed people. They often have eating disorder, member of cults, unhealthy relationship with religious practices and beliefs and narcissism etc. However these are only examples I have seen and they are not the only co-disorders possible. A person could have anxiety for many reasons. The behavior is just the result.
C) There is no way to know if you have anything to do with this as far as him choosing or avoiding you. This behavior disorder happens with single people and with people who don't live with their significan't other as well.
Last edited by redbluedisc; 04-29-2012 at 11:02 PM.
thank you for sharing, I have felt very alone as my husband of 20 years has slept on the couch for 9 years, I tried everything to get him to come back (re-decorate, new bed, lose weigh, ignore it, scream at it) and sadly the last 3 years I have accepted that it will never change... my advise is to plan for a future where you can take care of yourself and be proud of the relationship with your children... and hope that when you get the courage to leave, you will be prepared for the changes...