Hi, Well I have told him that already..Ok here's my story..I was referred to see a GYN specialist, however the DR I was referred to no longer accepted new patients. I was then put in the care of this DR, that I happen to be attracted to. I didn't incur to having that attraction towards him, but it just happened. The funny thing is I only felt this way on my fourth visit. What's more interesting is that he isn't my cup of tea, I would see him walking on the street and wouldn't budge, as I wouldn't be attracted to someone like him. I honestly don't know what happened!!
Last edited by CaribbeanGem; 07-10-2011 at 04:56 PM.
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I would take his advice and never bring it up again.
In fact, if it were me, I'd find a different doctor and never see him again.
It's simply not appropriate; it puts him in an awkward and dangerous position.
He may wish to drop you as a patient, but be afraid to (not knowing if you will respond by making up allegations of harassment against him... I'm not saying you WOULD do this, but some women have).
I'm sure it would be an amazing load off his mind if you gave him a call and told him, "I'm really sorry I put you on the spot. I can see it made you uncomfortable. I just want to let you know that you're a great doctor, but I'm going to switch to another doctor, in light of what happened."
That's the best advice i have to give.
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Thanks, I have already thought about calling and apologizing, and within the same breath ask to change physicians. I've read posts from various sites, and I feel better that I'm NOT the only one who has been in a similar situation like I have.
I think it is quite a common thing..A doctor can enter your life when you are at your most vulnerable, and show care and kindness. It would be hard not to respond emotionally. The fact that there are such strict laws over this subject is to prevent a vulnerable person from being taken advantage of. Nealr all doctors are honorable and genuine people. I agree with the others that it would be best to change doctors. It may happen again, and if it does, just fantasise away to yourself and never mention it.
The others have the right idea. He is bound by his doctor's code not to get involved with a patient or else he could seriously lose his medical license. It's good that he was nice and let you down easy.
I don't think your situation is too uncommon. I've seen this situation addressed on other message boards and it usually ends up this way with the woman looking for a new doctor because it's too hard to continue the patient/doctor relationship. It sounds like you handled it well, so that's good.
Being that he is a GYn specialist (if I understood you correctly) makes this all the more uncomfortable for everyone involved. I would simply switch to another doctor and leave it at that. While the idea of giving him a call and apologizing is very thoughtful, my biggest fear would be getting him on the phone and making some other blunder with words that accidentally slip out, making it worse. If you really want to politely let him know you are switching doctors, I would put it in a note form, so you can control exactly what you say. I imagine your doctor is flattered, after all he is human but he simply cannot now work with you, especially "down there".
As far as getting over it, I would mark this one up to a humorous incident that you will probably never forget, and as a good story to be told at a girls night out in the future. You are certainly not alone, and you did nothing wrong. One more to chalk up to lifes little moments... Whatever you do, do not beat yourself up over this or worry about it at all, once you have found another doctor.
While we all have maybe fantasized about marrying a doctor, I guess you have to meet them somewhere besides in the stirups!
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Probably you are looking for a date and this person happens to be the type that you like.
It is natural but please refrain it from making it happen. Also sometimes you may misunderstand the signal he sent. He has seen many lady patients and you may misread his behaviors and etc. A doctor has to be nice to a patient but it may not mean that he would go on and date the patient - it is in the movie.
Also the doctor could make a mistake trying to flirt so you may feel that you are attracted. It may be that you are just attracted to him.
You sure could change the doctor. Most GYN doctors don't really talk to the patient on the phone here if it is not urgent unless you can make the receptionist forward your call to the doctor.
I think if you cannot reach him by calling, you can send a card saying the things you want to say and tell him you want to keep it professional.
If I were you, I will tell him this the next time I see him. If I won't see him again, I will just drop the issue without calling or writing in case it causes further misunderstanding.