As if things could get any worse......... - Relationship Health Message Board

AshleeD · 08-15-2002, 03:09 PM

I'm so sorry guys...I know all of you are probably wishing I would quit posting and everything, but stuff just keeps coming up and I don't know why! Alright, today I found out that my ex-boyfriend, for those of you who know me, the one I lost my virignity to and went out with for almost a year, has a girlfriend. Naturally, I still love him, I always will, and he will always hold a special spot in my heart because he was the most special person I have ever met...and I thank God that I got a chance to be with him...but I always comforted myself by knowing he was single and alone just like I was even though he broke up with me...and you know maybe this is a childish question and maybe it shouldn't bother me but it just DOES...ya know I mean I knew in my mind that we were both single so it didn't bother me as much but now some other girl gets to have what I had and I dunno it just BUGS the crap out of me...My friend should've never told me that he's got a g/f now...that was really [nasty] of her! Sometimes I just wonder why he didn't come back to me, ya know? I dunno...I just wanted to vent.......thanks for listening if you're still down here...sorry if I'm bugging you all [stuff] just keepings happening and it's like no one cares to tell me stuff like that.........OK I'm leaving...any input or you know just anything would be awesome...thanks...

*Ash*

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brands11 · 08-15-2002, 04:18 PM

Hey Ash,
I know how you feel, I dated a guy for 7 years off and on (im only 20). we were really serious, but then he turned around and cheated several times. Everytime he got done with the other girl he wanted me and i fell for it everytime. I kept putting myself through hell. Soon you have to realize you can do better. No guy is worth beating yourself up over. Im sure you have alot more to offer, so why not put that towards finding someone who is worthy of that. Your young and you have lots of time to find that special one and he doesnt seem to be like mr. perfect so instead of spending time beating yourself up over him having a girlfriend make him know your enjoying your life with or without him!!! You deserve more and keep tellingyourself that.

CazzerKat217 · 08-15-2002, 04:32 PM

Ash its not a bother for u to bring ur probs to us! I enjoy being able to at least TRY to help! Anyway, yes u should always hold that special place in ur heart for him, but dont let it run ur life! N does ur friend know how much it bothered/hurt u that she told u? If she knew that it was gonna drive u crazy/upset u if u knew, then she shouldnta told u. If she didnt know, then whoops! Anyway, try to cheer up! You'll find the guy for u!!! *big bear hugs*

Cazzy

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AshDho · 08-15-2002, 07:13 PM

why did you guys break up?

KC Lee · 08-15-2002, 07:18 PM

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Originally posted by brands11:
Hey Ash,
I know how you feel, I dated a guy for 7 years off and on (im only 20). we were really serious, but then he turned around and cheated several times. Everytime he got done with the other girl he wanted me and i fell for it everytime. I kept putting myself through hell. Soon you have to realize you can do better. No guy is worth beating yourself up over. Im sure you have alot more to offer, so why not put that towards finding someone who is worthy of that. Your young and you have lots of time to find that special one and he doesnt seem to be like mr. perfect so instead of spending time beating yourself up over him having a girlfriend make him know your enjoying your life with or without him!!! You deserve more and keep tellingyourself that.

OMG, did we date the same guy? I swear the SAME thing happened to me. It sucks huh? And I almost blame myself for not walking away 6 years ago!