Re: Kept in the dark....
A plan...first of all, NO Contact!!! None. Don't answer his calls, don't read his texts (delete without reading), better yet change your number (yes, you can). Don't go online and look for him, don't check his profile page, don't read any emails from him and don't send him any. If you forgot something at his house, forget about it. Get a new one or go without.
When you start feeling lonely, sad or scared, tell someone (NOT him!). Don't sit home thinking "he was my best friend, I told him everything, I miss having him in my life!!" When you start wanting him, call someone else. Anyone. Just not him, never him. When you start trying to convince yourself it wasn't that bad, or it was all your fault, or maybe if you were more this or did less of that, you would still be together, talk to someone (NOT him!). When you find yourself thinking of excuses why you absolutely NEED to talk to him or text him, talk to someone else! The worst thing you can do is sit home thinking about him all day. You need to keep busy and you need to talk to someone when you start getting weak (and you will). Finally, plan some fun things to do that YOU like and always be sure to have something to look forward to. Like, take a class for fun at the recreation center, join an exercise group, learn to bake or sew or paint, buy some unfinished furniture and finish it yourself, grow some herbs or chiles and make your own salsa and sauces...anything. There's so many fun things to do and you are free to do anything you want. And have fun thinking of your own ideas and ways to stay free of him. You can stay away, but only if you really want to and only if you're willing to put in the work and not take the easy way out (going back).