Sounds like you want her to be jealous and you're disappointed that she's not.
Reverse psychology doesn't always work, you know. I know someone whose wife told him she wanted a divorce, so he responded "fine". She then cried, because she had wanted him to beg her not to divorce him. They ended up getting divorced. Reverse psychology can backfire on you.
If you want your wife to pay more attention to you and you want more intimacy from her, ask her. Don't play jealousy games.
The Following User Says Thank You to CadenceA For This Useful Post: sicrum (03-03-2012)
It sounds like you were deliberately trying to bait her into an argument. Why else would you feel compelled to remind her of your past with this woman? That's not the way to handle this type of situation maturely. Playing these kinds of ridiculous mind games is something high school kids do because they don't know any better. But when you become an adult, you're supposed to know the importance of communication, using your words to express your thoughts and feelings - and doing so in a respectful way that will not deliberately hurt or spark and argument with your spouse.
If your marriage is in as much trouble as you say it is, I think you know that going to see this buddy of yours is probably a really bad idea.
The Following User Says Thank You to Kszan For This Useful Post: sicrum (03-04-2012)