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Old 04-26-2012, 11:56 AM   #1
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Wife's lack of fantasy

In an effort to keep things fresh, I have on occasion asked my wife what she fantasizes about. She has said she doesn't have any. I know this can't be true. Is there a way to get her to talk?

 
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Re: Wife's lack of fantasy

Putting your two posts together suggests to me that you want more sexual dialogue in your life. You want to be talking about it more. I don't know your wife, but I know that it is very hard for me to chat on about sexual things. Sometimes we are inhibited in verbal ways althought quite open to experience physical things. If she says she doesn't have fantasies, then maybe she doesn't. She would not be unique. Sometimes a fantasy can be something immediate brought on by arousal and quickly forgotten on a conscious level, ie there seems to be not enoough detail to relate. You talk to her about sexual things, and maybe she will open up a bit given time.

 
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Re: Wife's lack of fantasy

I know with me, I have fantasies, but I rarely remember what they were.

So when when my boyfriend asks me "What do you fantasize about?", it's like him asking me what I wanted for my birthday. I might have had some ideas about what would be cool, but upon direct questioning, I totally blank out on the subject. I usually end up texting him later with ideas, after I've had a chance to think about it again.

Maybe try approaching your wife in a different format? Some people may have an easier time writing about something than saying it.

 
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Re: Wife's lack of fantasy

Get her the book My Secret Garden by Nancy Friday.

 
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