LoL That's what I thought. It freaked me out at first, because a week in to the relationship he already decided us saving and buying a house and moving in. While I was unaware that he had been trying to get me to notice him for 6 to 7 months, he figured out a lot about me, and he is a dreamer, so my guess is those months gave him time to dream about me and our future. He is in a hurry to get settled and married, i'm not sure why. But he tells me often he doesn't want to lose me and most of his actions I question have to do with him not wanting to lose me. I hope you understand.
It sort of sounds as if he has you filed into a slot marked "wife" and feels that the work there is done. Make sure that you are an actual person to him and not just another item in his life plan. I would seriously back off for a while and not allow him to pressure you into anything. Two months is nothing. Cheers, Sera
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If he is pushing oral sex repeatedly, and getting upset, that sounds selfish to me. Its ok for him to be upset, but getting upset at you is selfish.
I can tell you that wanting a little bit more time is not selfish. Him needing lots of time for school isn't selfish either, just a difference in priorities.
But if he can't give you more time in the near future you may want to find out if his priorities work with your needs overall.
Two months is still pretty early, it would probably be nice for both of you to lay down both of your priorities together.
Thank you very much to everybody that has taken the time to reply to my post.
@ Rosequartz : I'm afraid I may have the disorder you mentioned, however i'm not sure if my partner suffers from it too. But yes I will have to be careful either way.
@ Seprah : Your reply is exactly what I had been worrying about, I have been thinking about breaking up with him for a few weeks now because I was worried that was what I was to him. I am just not sure how to figure out whether I am important to him, or if it just some quality he sees in me that keeps his around. I wonder what could be the worst that could happen in the long term if he does think of me as just an item.
@ Zach : Thanks again, well he has no time at the moment, besides that he is still a virgin as me, and is very eager when it comes to sexual experiences. He wants to feel it all right away, but I want to be sure I am just not an object to him, the answer to which only he knows, but can't talk about.
At the end of the day guys, I did call his room mate, and he told me that currently he is going through a very tough time. Coz his dad is in the hospital and he has work commitments. So I will leave him for a month or so, and if he doesn't get back to me, I will have move on and let him do the same.
Hopefully he feels better, it's making me feel it's coz of me, but i'm only doing what I think is right.