Re: Friend's failure to contact me
I really feel for the position you find yourself in right now and I'd like to offer some advice on what I just went through a little over 3 weeks ago. I talked with my online friend from May of 2011 until 3 weeks ago. Our bond was strong too, and we professed our love for each other over and over again. I'm actually married but so was he and we found each other because we were both in troubled marriages so we poured ourselves into each other. Then around January of this year things started to slowly change and at first I didn't notice so much because I had a lot of things going on in my own life during this time. I did start to notice about 2 months ago and by the time I really noticed things had REALLY changed. He was less affectionate, he stopped telling me he loved me, he would miss our normal chat times and or our phone calls got shorter and shorter.
I brought this up several times and offered him at least 2 chances at an easy out no questions asked to which he swore he still wanted me in his life. Then finally I couldn't handle all the unspoken words and I was starting to feel crazy and wondering if I was really noticing what I knew I was. When I sent him an email telling him I couldn't stand it anymore he finally came out and said that we had went as far as we could and our situations were never going to change to which I agreed and we said goodbye. Then 3 weeks later he sent me a text to what I thought was to start talking again, but what he really wanted to let me know is that I had been replaced. I was sad about our split and even posted about it on here but I was getting better each and every day and I was trying to work on my marriage.
Then he had to go on and on about his new friend that he works with and she gets to share all the things with him that I never could because we were separated by 16 hours. He cut me to the core with this revelation that he could have easily omitted and I would have been none the wiser but for some reason he chose to tell me about her and now I'm having a VERY hard time getting over it. My advice to you is that your friend has probably found someone new, someone within her area that she can grasp on to and she is having a hard time telling you about it because she does care for your feelings. I just wish that my friend had let me be and that he hadn’t felt the need to tell me the truth. I would have liked to have gone on thinking that he did care for me so much that he wouldn’t hurt me like he did.
I really hope I’m wrong about this but that is what happened between me and my friend too.