My Boyfriend Lies To Me
I'd really appreciate your opinions on whether I am overreacting or if there is cause for concern in my relationship. We have only been officially going out for just over a week but I was dating him for several months before that. We are only 17 and I am his first girlfriend.
Basically, last week he asked me to log on to his ******** and change his profile picture as he was on holiday and unable to get on a computer to change it himself. Anyway, after giving me his password so I could do this he tried to guess mine and when he guessed correctly I told him so (knowing that I have security settings enabled so I would be notified if anyone logged on from a device I haven't approved).
Last night I received an email from ******** saying someone had logged on so I changed my password immediately. I have nothing to hide but I don't want him to be looking through conversations I have with my friends as we discuss some very personal things. Today he sent me a text which made it absolutely obvious that he had been looking at a particular message between me and a friend regarding my doubts about him in the early dating stages. We have sent many messages since then so he must have gone back a fair way to have seen them. When I questioned him over this he denied reading my messages and claimed it just to be a coincidence that he happened to bring up the very unique topic of this message. I know he's lying and this makes me feel more angry than the fact he's been on my ******** without my permission. He wasn't angry with me for accusing him of reading my messages which just strengthens the evidence suggesting he did! I would be insulted if he wrongly accused me of doing the same to him.
I would just like to know if I should be concerned that he already seems to be 'checking up' on me in such early stages of our relationship or if this is simply a naive boy who doesn't realise just how out of line he was. He has lied to me about several other minor things and I have just overlooked them; I gave him so many opportunities to tell me the truth tonight but he was adamant he didn't do it.
Last edited by MissConfusedd; 07-29-2012 at 04:35 PM.