Re: Should I stay or should I go?
My husband and I went through this when we got engaged. I was going through a lot of things of my own and I felt like the wedding planning was all on me while he was out with his friends. I told him about it, it led to a big argument and of course calling off the engagement. It got worse though. He broke up with me because he didn't think I loved him enough. And I hung out with some guys that were friends of my friends and yea..something horrible happened to me. But that's all details I don't want to get into. My point is, after a longggggggggggg time we did get back together and now we're married with 4 children. So things can change. And yes he was acting cold with me too after we got back together. We actually broke up quite a few times after getting back together. I too felt he didn't love me like he used to. It was like the relationship was ruined and never the same. But he did love me the same, and maybe more now than ever before since we have a family together. You can talk to your boyfriend about how you feel and if it does result in another argument, tell him "I love you so much but I refuse to be in a relationship where I gotta be afraid to tell you what I feel in fear of an argument. Imagine we did get married and I had an issue going on and I needed to talk to you? I can't deal with that. I love you but if it doesn't change and you KNOW you're not going to change it, then let me go so I can move on." Straight to the point. If he loves you he'll make the effort. In a relationship you should never have to be afraid to speak your mind. That's where the support comes in but if he can't provide that then honestly, maybe he's not the one for you?