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Old 08-23-2012, 05:00 PM   #1
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How do i find a good guy?

I'm 24 single no kids. I am enjoying being single because it is the first time in years but i do want very much to find the right person and settle down get married live together have kids. I feel i am getting older and it is time for this to happen and plus i am very alone. I have low self esteem and lots of emotional baggage and every boyfriend i have had has abused me or cheated on me so obviously i am choosing the wrong guys, or maybe i am choosing the ones who choose me? who knows. How do i find the right person and make this all happen? I am so shy and insecure. I want a guy with no kids who is stable and sane. i see other people my age are settled down and most females my age i know have fiances or husbands and kids already. help me.

 
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Re: How do i find a good guy?

Given your past experiences with partners, I feel that you should put a relationship on the backburner for now and do some work to find out why you make the choices you have made. A course of therapy with a good relationship counsellor would be ideal. Take a couple of years off to find yourself and the relationships you have will be better than you would have now. You are still very young and experiencing life as an independent person will be a terrific learning experience. Sera

 
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I'm 24 single no kids. I am enjoying being single because it is the first time in years but i do want very much to find the right person and settle down get married live together have kids. I feel i am getting older and it is time for this to happen and plus i am very alone. I have low self esteem and lots of emotional baggage and every boyfriend i have had has abused me or cheated on me so obviously i am choosing the wrong guys, or maybe i am choosing the ones who choose me? who knows. How do i find the right person and make this all happen? I am so shy and insecure. I want a guy with no kids who is stable and sane. i see other people my age are settled down and most females my age i know have fiances or husbands and kids already. help me.
We sound exactly the same! The only difference is that I'm 22. I don't have children either. I have been in so many bad relationships and just went through a really bad break up. I ask myself your question all the time. I have friends that engaged, or married too. I don't get it! I have low self esteem as well. I think we first must love ourselves and be happy within ourselves and then hopefully we will find a decent man! Good luck to both of us!!

 
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