Re: I can't stand my boyfriend's mother and she hates me for no reason.
Firstly, accept that her negativity and aggression are from HER head, and you do not have to rent space for them in yours. So do not take her opinions on board. I agree with Jasmine, one, keep space between you both, and two, be relentlessly polite and a bit cheesy. Make it your mantra that nothing she says will change you, and you will not react. Plaster a smile on and say nothing, just nod. She will think you are dumb as a brick and it will drive her mad. I do this with my abusive ex-DIL. She knows it is a waste of time shrieking at me (I have to deal with her as my son has become disabled and we assist him with access to the kids) and I can look back over the whole nightmare and know I always behaved well and never bought into it. Now she doesn't do more than irritate me. Remember, her cr@p is hers, you cannot stop her, what you CAN do is to choose your own reactions to it. She cannot hurt you if you refuse to be hurt. Leave the way open for future mellowing on her part and don't burn all your bridges. She doe not dislkie you because she doesn't know you, she is venting out of her own issues. Sera