Re: I feel like i have to make all the effort in my relationship
I was like this with my first husband. I was very needy and my love tank was very empty. How is your relationship with your dad? Did you feel he loved and cared about you? I found that no human being can fill our lives completely. We must be a whole person ourself emotionally and the more we demand or expect another person to fill our emotional needs then it will either drive them away or they will feel frustrated that they can't always meet your needs. I hope you have other good friends to be with and find other support or hobbies to fill up your time. Sometimes our love language is different from others. Some need affirmation, some need touch, some serve others to show love, etc. I encourage you to be all you can be in your relationship but be careful not to smother or crowd another person even if you know they love you. Best wishes to you.