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Old 09-09-2012, 07:59 AM   #1
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Boyfriend Trust Issues

Basically my boyfriend and I have been together for five and a half years and we have been through a lot of trust issues like him texting and private messaging other girls. So recently we had space for a month cause our relationship wasn't working and now we are back together and it's that happiest we hav ever been together. But I found out e still messages girls on social network sites and one girl from America was even claiming to be seeing him an seems besotted with him. Now my boyfriend and I live in the Uk and I know for a fact he's not cheating with this girl but he's obv sent messages to lead her on in someway and sometimes I think the emotional acts of someone hurts more than the psychical acts. So I got messages for this girl and her friend claiming that he was with her and now I feel hurt, and upset and silly.
I love my boyfriend and want it to work and I know that it's just internet silliness but it's hurt me and made me paranoid and have trust issues and I need help and advice from an outside perspective. Please help me xxx

 
Old 09-09-2012, 09:52 AM   #2
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Re: Boyfriend Trust Issues

I really don't see any difference between this behaviour and face-to-face flirting. It is juvenile and disrespectful to you. I don't get why a guy would risk his relationship for the shallow satisfaction of this. Put your foot down hard, if you want your relationship to continue. Perspnally, I would be asking myself whether he really loved me. Sera

 
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Re: Boyfriend Trust Issues

Honestly i have been going through something similar. He wont change, and you deserve better. You deserve someone to give you their full attention. if you dont trust him you will always have doubt in your mind about him. If he really loved you and wanted to be with you he would never talk to another girl for any reasons. I think as hard as it will be you need to lay it all out for him that you know and you will not accept this behaviour and threaten to leave.

 
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Re: Boyfriend Trust Issues

I would give up on him. Clearly the month's "space" wasn't enough to change his behavior so what else is left? Nothing more you can do about it. Cut your losses and get rid of the guy, I don't see why you keep trying when he clearly isn't and doesn't want to. Why keep wasting your time when he can't be bothered to respect you and his relationship with you?

 
Old 09-16-2012, 12:26 PM   #5
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Re: Boyfriend Trust Issues

Update:

I'm still with my boyfriend at the moment. But this girl from NY (the same girl as before) is now claiming my boyfriend said he loves her and she admitted she is in love with him and that him and her are going to be a couple and be together. My boyfriend says he's never said he loves her or asked er to be with him and I don't know what to do or think.

 
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