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Old 09-18-2012, 06:13 PM   #1
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Don't know how to get a girlfriend.

When I like a girl, I will approach her and break the ice. I will be sweet, and respectful while being confident and independent. I try to talk to her as much as I can, and develop a friendship. But nothing ever goes further than that.

After awhile of this, I will ask her to hang out sometime and get her number. But when I specifically ask her to hang out one-on-one, she's always "busy" or I get excuses. If I ask her to come to a group function, if she comes, she usually ignores me and talks to everyone else at the function.

It always happens this way, and it makes me feel undesirable, inhuman, and emasculated. I want to have a deeper relationship where I can give more to her than a friend can, but no one wants what I can offer.

Don't tell me to patient. Waiting does not get you anything.
What steps am I missing? What am I not doing right? Why can't I ever succeed?

 
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Re: Don't know how to get a girlfriend.

Read the thread posted by Injusticed. You will get pretty much the same responses. Sera

 
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Old 09-18-2012, 06:38 PM   #3
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Re: Don't know how to get a girlfriend.

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Read the thread posted by Injusticed. You will get pretty much the same responses. Sera
Yeah I figured that, cause the top contributors like to pull the same cliches stuff out of their ***.

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Re: Don't know how to get a girlfriend.

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Read the thread posted by Injusticed. You will get pretty much the same responses. Sera
Can't be more similar than injusticed post.. I've a feeling it's one and the same

 
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Read the thread posted by Injusticed. You will get pretty much the same responses. Sera
Can't be more similar than injusticed post.. I've a feeling it's one and the same .probably realized he's ruin himself in the other persona so starting new post

 
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Re: Don't know how to get a girlfriend.

If you want to date them dont try to be thier friend. I dont know if that was advive given to you before but that is a bad approach. IT feels 'sneaky' and weak to women. It doesnt mean do not be friendly..just make your intent known right from the get go. Other than that hmm dont try to be overly friendly or nice..try to tease them a little..just dont take it too far.

 
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Re: Don't know how to get a girlfriend.

You sound like a nice guy.
Just be yourself, dont put on an act and it will happen!!...
The right girl will come along.
Good Luck,

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Re: Don't know how to get a girlfriend.

You sound like a nice guy.
Just be yourself, dont put on an act and it will happen!!...
The right girl will come along.
Good Luck,

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If you want to date them dont try to be thier friend. I dont know if that was advive given to you before but that is a bad approach. IT feels 'sneaky' and weak to women. It doesnt mean do not be friendly..just make your intent known right from the get go. Other than that hmm dont try to be overly friendly or nice..try to tease them a little..just dont take it too far.
Exactly. I like a guy who is smiling at me, and flirty just a little bit - not talking about my body or anything - but maybe ask about my day, say "I like your top" or say "do you want to go to the cafeteria with me" (if at work) or whatever - make it known that you think shes cute, and you may be interested in more - but a little bit at a time, if she gives you positive signals, step it up a little each time.

If you act like a friend, there are two things that will happen: she is not attracted to you and you will stay a friend or she will be disappointed that you dont make any moves and move on. either way - make your move, be a man, be bold, be respectful, and attentive to her cues and body languages. Use humor, but not vulgarity. A playful wink or touch on the arm can make a girls heart flutter!! If she doesnt like it, she will likely move backward from you, away from you, or make a confused or unhappy face.

A girl that you want to pursue should not ever go into your Friend category. Go for it and risk rejection - you will either see her again or not. If you like her, make her your girlfriend or stop contacting her much. If you like a girl as a Friend only, those are the girls you befriend.

Hope this helps!

For the record I'm a girl, and I've stopped talking to most of my guyfriends but I also knew that these guys would Never be More than Friends. From the get go. I would not have been able to be Friends with them if I liked them "like that". Just fyi. It doesnt work that way for me - if you're a guy, you're either my BF, or my Friend. It does not overlap.

I am not saying its impossible for Friends to fall for one another, just unlikely...better to make your intentions known - girls fear rejection too, and it is society telling us if a girl tells a guy she likes him and is rejected she is a pathetic desperate girl but if a guy does that and is rejected, he's just a guy doing whats normal. peace, i.

 
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