I just want to say I understand all the frustrated women out there. The ones with the husbands with low/ non existent libidos. My husband and I have been together for 21 years. I love him very very much. In the begining we had sex 2 times a week. Now after kids we are lucky if we have it 0nce a month. Our kids are 15 and 11 years old now. I have spoken to him about this many times. He just doesn't get it. He would much rather golf and play cards with his buddies then make love to his wife. It does not a do anything for my self esteem. I have never cheated on him through sexting or otherwise. Sometimes I wonder ......why not? I am a attractive women so I know it's not me, but it hurts just the same.
I would ask your husband if he would be willing to get his testosterone level checked. many men have low testosterone, which is the main hormone that controls libido. He may just not have the hormones necessary for the normal sex drive, but this can be treated so it is a solvable problem. Other libido deflators are low thyroid, depression, obesity, and too much alcohol.