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Old 10-16-2012, 04:26 AM   #1
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My boyfriend and I have been together 2 years..and I find myself being mean to him..he is very good and I am as well..but he only has do a couple things and I'm yelling at him..I call him names I guess cause I feel he deserves it..but all I'm doing is pushing him away I feel. I threaten to leave him a lot..and that kills
Him..I'm not always like this..but I feel as if he isn't there for me on important
Things..and it sets me off..or does
Stupid things like burn the food and
Gets foot powder everywhere before
He goes to work..what should I do to have a longer fuse..

 
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Old 10-16-2012, 04:50 AM   #2
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Re: I'm mean to my boyfriend...why?

Nothing to worry,make your attitude a little better towards him,say sorrie he'll feel good and hug him every time you meet,may be you are bored of him but such little things arent much to worry dear

 
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Old 10-16-2012, 07:19 PM   #3
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Re: I'm mean to my boyfriend...why?

I once dated a woman who would be mean to me quite often for no real reason. Oh, she had reasons, like you do. But they weren't really why she was mean to me. It was just the kind of person she was. She was mean spirited and drove me away no matter how hard I tried to make her happy. If you want to keep your man you need to lighten up on him. It ruined the relationship I had with that woman. I could not take it and ended it. She promised she'd changed and gotten therapy. It was a lie and she was worse than before. So I ended it forever. That is what you're heading for by being mean to him. I am married now, but no matter how much I love my wife if she started being mean all of the time it would not take long for me to be gone. No real man would put up with someone getting on his case about petty things all of the time. Least none that I know would.

 
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Old 10-16-2012, 08:52 PM   #4
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Re: I'm mean to my boyfriend... why?

yeah I"m thinking some counseling or some meds or something. especially if he's basically a pretty good guy, you're not supposed to sweat the small stuff . I have a friend like that and everytime a new bf comes along and it lasts about 2-3 weeks and he figures it out, he's gone! I've tried to talkk to her "gently" about changing her meds up but no deal yet. good luck , let us know, ok? Cathy

 
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Old 10-17-2012, 02:12 PM   #5
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Re: I'm mean to my boyfriend... why?

how about make a concious effort to be nicer?
you don't need meds.....just tell yourself you're gonna change your attitude and do it!

 
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Old 10-17-2012, 09:14 PM   #6
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Re: I'm mean to my boyfriend... why?

Well I think
It's ok..I have been in and out of the
Hospital with some problems..I had surgery today and my ovaries had to go..so I won't be able to have kids and I think this stress is just hard and I'm learning how to handle it..

 
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Old 10-17-2012, 09:15 PM   #7
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Re: I'm mean to my boyfriend... why?

Well I think
It's ok..I have been in and out of the
Hospital with some problems..I had surgery today and my ovaries had to go..so I won't be able to have kids and I think this stress is just hard and I'm learning how to handle it..

 
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Old 10-17-2012, 09:26 PM   #8
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Re: I'm mean to my boyfriend... why?

so sorry to hear about that. that's enough to make anyone have mood changes. I'm sure your hormones have been fluctuating as well. Give them time (months) to settle down some so you can get back to normal. How were things at the hospital w/ your boyfriend (you can tell me if I'm asking too much here)? Cathy

 
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Old 10-17-2012, 09:51 PM   #9
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I was married for 10 years. I got mad at petty things to after the first 2 years.
Counseling isn't going to help sweety. You can simply ask him to
Do his powdering over a towel then all he has to do is pick it up. The attitude
Adjustment could help a little. If you feel bored with him find something new for the both of you. Medicine may help don't advise it. Took mood stabilizers and
Depressant pills for 4 years. I'm off those now. I hope everything works out but
Don't push him away. Hope I helped some way.

 
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Old 10-18-2012, 01:50 AM   #10
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Re: I'm mean to my boyfriend... why?

My gf is the same she is mean to me about a lot of petty stuff i try to be calm because she is pregnant and we had fought over her attitude as well i told her if she doesn't change i cant go on like this but then she is okay for a few days then it starts again so i confronted her about it she said she is not use to being loved allot and somebody that cares for her feelings maybe it's something in your past that made you like that but if it is let go of the past otherwise your going to get someone else like that and your going to miss the nice guy you had so try to be understanding and control your emotions

 
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Old 10-19-2012, 10:59 PM   #11
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Re: I'm mean to my boyfriend... why?

Thank you for your thoughts they have helped..he was very supportive during the surgery and I stayed at my mothers the first day while he was
At work.:but I couldn't get to
The bed upstairs so he transported me
To his mothers so he could take care of me
At night and she could watch over me
During the day..things are much better since then..I'm still recovering..and yes I was married before and it was a very very bad time..so I think I need to key my past go and realize he is not like my Ex and won't hurt me..I can do this..thank you everyone!

 
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