We've been married 7 yrs and have two kids. We got married when I found out I was first pregnant for health ins purposes. I don't believe we married for the right reasons. Have no interests never see each other, no communication or sleeping I'm same bed. I'm realizing I've never loved him nor do I feel like I've ever been with anyone. How can I tell him and not hurt him or our kids?
Last edited by Synbub2012; 10-24-2012 at 04:44 PM.
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Wow that is going to be tuff. I am going thru the same thing accept my wife is the one who says she dont love me like she use to. You need to make sure this is what you really feel. And once u do then u need to be honest with him. Being honest is the key. You cant stay with him if you dont love him no more. Otherwise you may hurt him worst down the line.
i aM amazed that your husband never slept with you i am pretty sure that he is having an affair with any other lady and he must be sleeping with that lady you need to ask about this from him for the safety of your childrens
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Last edited by Administrator; 01-15-2013 at 10:13 PM.
Thanks for your reply. There has been so much dishonesty in our marriage from day one! Like being 7 months pregnant alone (my family and friends lived in a different state) and finding your husband on adult friend finder looking to meet up with other women. Then theres the porn addiction he has thats more important then spending quality time with his wife. Our relationship in the beginning was long distant and even throughout our marriage it still has been that way with his career. He is a chef, so he gets home when im sleeping and the kids and I leave for school/work when he is sleeping. I have begged and pleaded to do marriage counseling, and he tells me he has nothing wrong with him and he is not spending the money. How can he tell me that everything is fine for him? He sleeps on the couch down stairs every night (which is what he is doing as I type this). He also goes and buys a boat while Im out of the state last week, and when I get home I find out he used me as a co-signer without my permission?!?! How is that fair when Im not allowed to take money out of his account for gas? We have so much finical issues that this was the last thing we needed.
I asked if we could pay off more debt then maybe in a year get him a new boat, he obviously couldn't wait and did it all while I was gone. I found out tonight that he is going to be in fishing tournaments next spring so that will be even less time together for us. It's starting to affect me at work, I had to leave early because I ended up with a panic attack, everyone must think Im crazy!
Im so sorry for venting, but you are the first person I have talked to about all this and it feels good to get it all out.
I hope everything works out for you as well. Thanks for listening!
Last edited by Administrator; 01-15-2013 at 10:14 PM.
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I honestly cant see when he would have the time to cheat on me, but I could be wrong. Don't get me wrong we have sex but only 1-2 time a month, but its when he wants it, not me! ;( I'll try and find a way to see if he is I suppose
Last edited by Administrator; 01-15-2013 at 10:14 PM.
I think that you need to be honest with him and just tell him how exactly you feel. He might feel the same way and it be a mutual feeling so it won't hurt him as much as you think it will. As for the children...they are still young and sometimes you have to do things in life that you don't want, but making yourself happy is important also. The kids will understand when they get older. Just don't ever take their daddy from them...that would be the worse thing ever.
Personally, I believe if you stay in a loveless relationship, that is what you are teaching your children that being married is about. I wouldn't stay in that situation. Just because parents get divorced doesn't mean that the kids dad or mom are taken away from them, it just adds another dynamic. The best thing I ever did for myself or my kids was to divorce their dad. I'm not saying it isn't a hard choice, but being married just because you have kids is not a good reason to me. Anyway, it's just my opinion.
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