Re: Son in law help
This is very similar to what a friend of mine is going through right now. Her daughter got involved with and less than a year later married an ex-convict with a history of drug addiction. From what I understand, her daughter has told her that her now husband has been arrested for drugs again, while on parole mind you, and has been thrown back in prison for an undetermined amount of time. Just like your daughter won't listen to reason from you when it comes to her bad choices, my friend is struggling with how to make her daughter get away from this guy.
What I have learned from seeing what my friend is going through is that you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink. You are no doubt giving her the best advice which is true and real and most likely the best possible solutions to her problems. But because she is in this way too deep, she won't make changes and you may end up seeing her situation keep deteriorating. I know it's so hard to just stand by and watch it happen but the fact is, she won't take action because she is rooted in her situation and the only way for her to get out is if she wants it. When she makes the decision on her own that this is not the kind of life she wants for her and her kids, then she will come crawling back to you for help. Unfortunately she will need to hit rock bottom first before she gets to that point. Until then all you can do is try to be encouraging in a loving manner toward getting her out of this without being too obvious. I'm not sure what that looks like but when you're in the moment, try to be as subtle as possible with your words. It might eventually sink in.
Last edited by Kszan; 11-17-2012 at 08:07 AM.