Re: Talking trash behind my back -Can i trust him again?
It's a hard call but what bothers me is that he felt it was ok to put these strangers opinions of him ahead of you, and probably left them with a very bad opinion of you in the bargain, that's how important acceptance is to him. I can't really comment because when I come across someone who gossips or talks trash about other people all the time, I just run a mile, it gives me such a bad impression of them because they just come across as petty backstabbers (and yes, very insecure that they have to do this, and I know full well if they are talking trash to me about others, they're probably talking trash about me to others too). It would really bother me being with someone who cares so much about what others think of them that this is how they try to impress people it is very immature and high school. I have a couple of male relatives like this and they act the same way as if they are trying to be the cool kids in high school and honestly I can't even stand being around them because it just gives me the creeps, they're far too old to be acting this way. I guess the real question is can you handle the fact that he is so immature and insecure? because this gossiping he does is just a symptom of that. Would this guy really make a good husband and father if he is this immature, or would his immaturity cause problems in other ways. Could you really trust and confide in him knowing he might talk about private things behind your back. Only you can make that decision, but I think you need to be prepared that his need for attention and acceptance could get in the way.
Last edited by captjane; 12-12-2012 at 04:51 AM.
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