A brief(!) history - DH and I married in July after 4 years together (and colleagues 2 years previous to that). We started living together 2 months into our relationship due to financial ease of co-habiting.
He's a lovely man, very sweet and generous, always showering me with gifts but I'm not in love with him. There has never been passion or even chemistry, but I was so grateful to have a 'nice' man after some awful exes that I settled. Now feels like I'm married to my brother - he doesn't do anything wrong but I am not attracted, do not want sex or even getting close.
I am young, no kids although we own a house. Can't afford counseling, and I don't think that will help when I have made up my mind that he just isn't the man for me. My eye has started to wander, and there are other men who make me feel the way I've never felt with DH. Tried discussing my feelings recently but he clammed up, wouldn't respond and I felt do guilty I backed down. Now just feel trapped and so unhappy, but he hasn't mentioned our discussion since - is in denial I think - and I don't know how to get out