Re: Boyfriend's strange Obsessions Coming Between Us
I can totally empathize with your situation. 2 weeks before my youngest child was born, her father fell 16 feet head first into a concrete floor. At first I didn't see it, I had a new baby who was ill and a two year old who developed a kidney condition 8 months after his little sister was born.
But then I started noticing that he hadn't bonded with our daughter like he did with our son. He hardly ever held her or played with her. He started disappearing at night, then I found out he hadn't been going to work. It went downhill from there. He was doing coke behind my back. I couldn't give him cash to pay bills or anything, he'd be off shooting dope.
He was a totally different person than the person I met and fell in love with. To this very day, I love that man, but he died a long time ago and I couldn't live like that. When he went to prison I was done.
There is a name for it, but I can"t spell it, so I can going to kinda sound it out. Its a contra coupe injury. Its where the brain slams against the skull. In my ex's case, he had to have emergency surgery to drain the bleeding. It"s brain damage.
I don't know if your boyfriend can be treated, I know my ex wouldn't even try. And the sad part is that they aren't to blame. He isn't doing this to hurt you, he can't help it.
I don"t really have any advice for you, other than maybe do some research. This happened to my 16 years ago, maybe there are new treatments. But in any case I wanted you to know that you are not alone.
My prayers go out to both of you.