Re: Put my heart out there after it was broken before and now I am devistated again
Here we go again .Ex girlfriend just text me asking how my mother is (in the hospital).I responded with facts and only facts . Again I have to walk away but still wish to be friends.I wish more than that but have to give up that idea .Every time she contacts me I am over the moon and messed at the same time .I must move on.
The following user gives a hug of support to rod24773: metalzombie (02-04-2013)
Re: Put my heart out there after it was broken before and now I am devastated again
Maybe you should ask her to give you a little time before she contacts you again? The contact sends you reeling and basically requires you to start over on "moving on".
Re: Put my heart out there after it was broken before and now I am devastated again
I had another "how's your mother "update email question today . I asked her how she was doing .She went off on me as she found out I had contacted one of her friends trying to understand what the hell had happened to our relationship .She then went on about all kinds of things wrong with this relationship ,none of which dealt with her insecurities. It is really time to walk away now .She's looking for any reason and not willing to face her own fear truth (as pointed out by her earlier in this mess). She says she doesnt know is she wants to be friends anymore ??????? Im sad but I am done.She is pyscotic.
Re: Put my heart out there after it was broken before and now I am devastated again
Struggling today as I want to contact her to straighten this out .My mind knows I cant but my heart is desparate to try. Really struggling to let go and walk away .
Re: Put my heart out there after it was broken before and now I am devastated again
You're going to have to learn that in life we don't always get closure. Whether its due to a broken relationship or a death or something else, you're not always going to get the closure you need to move on. The best thing you can do for yourself is to keep yourself occupied with your kids, which should be your first priority, and your friends and everything else. She doesn't belong in your life nor your thoughts anymore so close that chapter and be glad you have more time to devote to your kids now. Do father/son activities and make them happy. That's what you should be doing instead of pining away for a psychopathic ex who is going to keep playing mind games with you until you cut her off completely.
Re: Put my heart out there after it was broken before and now I am devastated again
I agree with Kszan. Send her emails to spam. Put her on your block list in your phone. Put her out of your mind. Don't try to understand the why of anything. It is what it is.
Re: Put my heart out there after it was broken before and now I am devastated again
I have not received anything from her in days .I do not expect to hear from her again . I have made a Doctors appointment for next week as I am not sleeping well and am very restless and fidgety. I presume I am dealing with some depression .
Re: Put my heart out there after it was broken before and now I am devastated again
closure doesn't always come and it is very hard to deal with. making a doctors appointment is definitely a step in the right direction, because if you are struggling with depression and insomnia, trying to get your life back on track becomes nearly impossible. Trying to distract yourself by spending more time with your kids is a great idea, and really trying to enjoy and accept being single is another good step to take. It won't happen quickly, but trying to be content on your own as a single parent will help you get over this heartache of your first real relationship since your ex wife.
all the best,
-k
Re: Put my heart out there after it was broken before and now I am devastated again
Yes ,it doesnt appear I will get closure on this and yes that is the hardest part . I keep running heart first into so many triggers that remind me of her and us . I just wish she had let me know that she was backing out of the relationship instead of just dropping off the face of the earth . Everyone keeps telling me that things happen for a reason and to teach us things . I guess life needs to kick me a little bit more as I haven't learned enough yet .
Re: Put my heart out there after it was broken before and now I am devastated again
My ex grilfriend just emailed me asking about my Mother .During this mess my mother was hospitalized . I cant handle the contact but dont wish to be an a-hole either .I responded with facts about my mother and nothing more .
It hurts so much .There are treatments for many illnesses but nothing other than time cures a broken heart .
Re: Put my heart out there after it was broken before and now I am devastated again
You need to tell her to stop contacting you. It's upsetting you way too much. Everytime she contacts you it sets you back again. My suggestion is that you either tell her flat out that you don't want her emailing you anymore or just block her email so that all of her stuff gets sent to trash automatically.
It's not going to get any easier if you don't take charge of the situation and stop all contact with her. She was the one who bailed, it is very unfair of her to keep harassing you after the fact with these emails that are completely unnecessary. Personally I would tell her off if I were you.
Re: Put my heart out there after it was broken before and now I am devastated again
Despite your suggestions and knowing you are probably right I will leave things as they are for now .I am probably my own worst eneny as you say .I have come to realize that I am dealing with many overwhelming things right now in my life.When the girlfriend stepped out of my life that was just the tipping point.When I go to my doctors today I will hopefully find a venue to vent some of these stresses i.e. counseling .I have been overwhlemed with many responsiblities and stresses as of late .
Re: Put my heart out there after it was broken before and now I am devastated again
My Ex girlfriend has now contacted me once every week since she ended out relationship to ask about my infirmed mother .I have given her facts about my mother and nothing else .Yesterday she emailed me telling me that this is the last email she will send as all contact has been one sided and friends dont treat friends like that .I responded with a heart felt explanation that I was limiting my responses as I am struggling to think of her as only my friend . Put her in her place some as to how she has been treating me concidering I was "the wonderful man of the earth" at one point .Really down and depressed today but I know that things will get better now that contact is broken .
Re: Put my heart out there after it was broken before and now I am devastated again
2 1/2 months since the Ex Gf called it quits and I am doing better but still struggling .I cant seem to shake this sad empty feeling .I am doing my best to keep busy and yes always ,through my marriage end and this , putting my two sons first . I passed , as did my ex Gf, a milestone birthday last week .I guess that is making this harder as well .We had big plans to spend St Patty's Day in Ireland and that fell apart with her departure. Made my Bday a real let down .I am stuck with the usual "I never thought I'd be where I am at this point in my life". Sleeping better but just always seem to be so tired. Wish i could go to sleep for about a week and wake up feeling like myself.
