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Old 02-10-2013, 10:14 AM   #1
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don't know what to do..

I have been with my partner now for almost 8 years,
we have had our ups and downs like most people,
thing is... when you normally start up in a relationship you meet one anothers friends... he didnt really take to mine, and seemed to be really jealous of my best friend. So over time i drifted away from my friends. i feel really bad about this as i no you shudnt do this, and now when i try connect to my friends i dont get anywere i just get rejected, and now i cant seem to make strong bonds with people my own age and intellect.
I cant really invite my friends round to our house as i dont think my partner would like it, and he never brings his friends over either.
How do you make friends when your almost 30! im in such a slump!

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Old 02-11-2013, 08:41 AM   #2
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Re: don't know what to do..

Maybe you both could meet couples to be friends with, go out with, etc. That would be great if you made friends together.

You have to put yourself in a place where there will be a possibility to make friends. What about some volunteer opportunities? You connect with people when you have some common interests usually. Start with that and become involved in something that interests you. Don't pressure yourself to make friends, it will happen as you put yourself in a position to meet people.

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Old 02-11-2013, 09:04 AM   #3
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Re: don't know what to do..

you shouldn't be worrying about making new friends, because he would find something about them he didn't should try to regain contact with your previous friends!

Old 02-11-2013, 05:57 PM   #4
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Re: don't know what to do..

Yes, keep trying. He sounds as if he has isolated you from anyone you knew "before him". Your friends would have been very hurt by this so don't expect them to rush back in. All you can do is sincerely make the effort. Apart from that, there are many ways to put yourself out there and make friends, you just need to find something that suits you. Sera.

Old 02-13-2013, 08:00 PM   #5
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Wink Re: don't know what to do..

I think it would be a good idea to apologize to each of them personally, and then let them know how much you've missed them, and how important it is to you to have them back in your life. In your own words, and by your own style though. Speak from your heart and I'm sure they'll remember why you meant so much to them in the first place and how much they've missed you. I sure do hope that it works out good for you. We ALL need friends in our lives!

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