Hi there. I'm struggling with something that id really love some feedback on.
I just broke up with my girlfriend on Wednesday night. We have been dating a month and a half. We met online and we are long distance, about 2 hours or so away from each other.
Her background is that she had a very unideal childhood. She is older than me (33) but hasn't been in a serious relationship in a very long time. She's done a lot of casual noncommittal dating and usually dates people with drama. On the other hand, I am more of the relationship type and I am lacking the drama. Pretty much the opposite of her normal type.
We've spent 3 out of the last four weekends together, with me coming to her. But there has been a lot of troubles in our relationship. They stem from me not being able to fully communicate because it takes me a while to open up to people. And also from her inability to express her feelings about me.
The last weekend we spent together for example, I decided to go back home Monday morning and she was upset with me because I didn't discuss the option of staying with her on Monday, even though I work full time. She also got mad at me In the same weekend because she is leaving on a big trip next week and she expected me to come visit her this weekend, bc she can't come to me. But I feel like I need to spend time at home and don't want to spend another weekend away.
Maybe I'm just not ready for a long distance relationship or maybe she's just too pushy. We quickly labeled ourselves as girlfriends (after a few weeks of dating), which was her idea. I think the label put a mental speed up on things which wasn't good for me.
Basically my dilemma is, after I broke up with her she completely opened up about how she feels about me and told me she's falling for me and all of these amazing things she thinks about me. I really felt myself falling for her as well. I just didn't think all of the drama we had so early on in our relationship was good and I didn't want to continue getting deeper feelings if the drama was going to continue.
Should I stick to my guns with the break up or try to get her back? If I put the effort in I think she would take me back. It's just that, I'm not really ready to hop back into that girlfriend role/title immediately. But I can't ask her for a break because I don't think she'd buy that.
What to do?!