help ,mom has schzophrenia.. - Schizophrenia Message Board

super_freak · 06-14-2002, 08:07 PM

Hi,

My mom has had schzophrenia since i was about 11-12 and my dad and her got a divorce becuase of all the tension and stress. She takes medication for this illness when they split up, but during the next 5 years she goes on and off it. She was in bad shape before thinking that she was god and stuff like that. I learned to deal with that because she was always been taking care of from her brothers and sisters and had some common sense about her. But then there came a bad period where she didnt take her medication for the longest time, and she got really bad like crashing a car into another one on perpose etc. She was taking to the hospital because of it.

THe problem with i live is that there is a law that states the mental ill have a choice to take there medication and cannot be forced to. When the NDP was in government they changed the law to this, those morons, i hope they rot in hell. This is retarted she endangers her own life and they can only keep her in the hospital for a few weeks, then when she gets out she doesnt take the medication and the cycle continues.

NO matter what u say u cannot make her take it. Trust me a tried for years.

I have lived my life for a while without thinking about it or her. She lives about 2 hours away from me. But a few days ago she took the bus up to where i live and called my family talking crazy. MY dad blew up and told her to go away, but she is so out of it she has no idea whats shes doing. So i saw her today walking down my street with a sleepbag [etc.]. I told her to come over here, it was like talking to a dog she was totally out of it. I tried to tell her to go back to where she lives and go to the hospital but she doesnnt listen, i say my dad will drive her but she refuses and stares into space for 10 minutes. She has never been like this before.

This is really depressing me because she has lost her apartment, has little to no money, and is wondering the streets with all her stuff. AND I CANT DO I DAMN THING! I love my mom with all my heart, and it kills me to see her like this, i cry so often, and so much stress because of today. I dont know what to do, i wish i could commit her, but the law stops this. I HATE THAT LAW! im so angery and sad at the same time, it really disruptive to my life. I mean she is not eating and she is wondering the streets, i dont want her to die! i lost my faith because of this along time ago..

I really need some advice on how to handle my feelings and is there anything i can tell myself because i think im getting depressed...

ANy help would be appriated.

Thanks

[ ~~ No profanities please, super-freak. ~~ Thanks, Minerva ]

[This message has been edited by minerva (edited 06-15-2002).]

Hellion · 06-16-2002, 12:00 PM

Boy can I relate to you. My mom died in Aug of last year.I think she was always sick but got worse the older she got.

We too were helpless too help her.She lived in an old house without a toilet or hot water.Had God knows how many animals in the house. Everything she had was covered in animal hair and waste.

We ran into the same wall you have.We were told she had the right to live the way she wants(?) to .....mind your own business??????!!!!

I wish I could tell you how to help her. What happened with her is she'd call the police every time she got scared, telling them all sorts of crazy stuff. They finally took her to the hospital for obsevation.The determined she couldn't live alone any more. She was in a nursing home 3 weeks to the day when she died..

We had our mother back for about a week. The day before we took her out to Walmarts and she had the best time!I thank God for letting us have her back before she died, even if it was for such a short time.

It is the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with.

Just remember she is ill and doesn't mean to be the way she is. Good luck.

Megherc · 06-18-2002, 12:23 PM

One day I went on a website that listed vitamin information(it's purpose was just general health info), but when looking at B-Complex deficiency symptoms on the list, I was surprised to see schizophrenia on that list, along with others like depression. At that time, I would not have guessed simple vitamin deficiency could cause such a thing.

Since it seems your mom is refusing to take the meds, maybe perhaps you could suggest to her to take a high B-Complex supplement and see if it doesn't make her feel better? It might be worth a shot...anything would be right now, and if it didn't work, you'd only be out a few $$ for the effort. But maybe it would help her!?

Lil_Bit · 06-18-2002, 04:19 PM

Baker Act? Marchment Act? So sorry to hear of your dilema superfreak,,, Ill keep you in my prayers.

Kokopelli · 06-19-2002, 03:33 PM

Hi Everyone

Yes I can relate ... My brother has it he has been going through a rough time lately... But it's true you can't force them to take anything they are adults.
arg first alot of schitzophrenics can be perfectly normal one day and the next day having a rough time of it.. I hope and pray to find some answers through the new board here and I hope some people can help me learn a little more about this stuff so I can better help my brother.

Hugs
Koko