personality disorder/schizoid type - Schizophrenia Message Board

mushroom1997 · 08-22-2002, 03:11 PM

I would like to hear any imput from anyone who has any knowledge of personality disorder/schizoid type.
What medicines are perscribed for this etc.
Thanks in advance

~*Silent*~ · 08-24-2002, 05:04 PM

I think my mother's meds are called "Lah-Raz-A-Pam." That's obviously not how it is spelt, but that's how I hear it.

I really don't know what else you could want to know, but try typing in "schizophrenia" in a search engine. I am sure you will find some answers.

mushroom1997 · 08-25-2002, 09:56 PM

Thanks, I have done some research. From experience living with my ex, he seems to have lived his life in a circle pattern of a 5 yr average. By that I mean his jobs usually lasted about that long, his marriages, interests etc. (give or take couple yrs. at times)
In denial big time that he had any problems. People (me included) made "mountains out of molehills" when he was confronted about anything.
Is he the exception or is this nornal with this?

SocialButterfly · 01-18-2003, 11:59 AM

I am having the same problem with my boyfriend...I have been feeling like I'VE been going crazy. My therapist told me a little about the disorder, but I'm not sure what meds are prescribed...from what I understand, there's nothing you can do because it's a PERSONALITY disorder...not mental..personalities can't be altered..people are who they are...I'm struggling right now to decide if he's the man for me. I have to either choose 1). To live with an unemotional and unaffectionate man and be supportive of this disorder or 2). Go find someone else. They can't change it and they can't help it. They are excellent performers when they HAVE to be...but it only lasts a short time and then they're back to who they are...they have an attitude of "indifference" (which is the WORST to deal with as an intimate partner), have little to no interest in sex (or more importantly intimacy) because they truly can't feel. They don't say I love you because they never feel it. They know what they're supposed to say, how they're supposed to say it, and they'll do it for a short period of time if you raise a big fuss about it...but they don't feel it so it doesn't come naturally. I'm struggling because I love him. He "performed" so well in the beginning that it hooked me...but it feels good to know it's not my fault. It's just how he is and I feel that must be the SADDEST way to live...not being able to feel...WANTING to.....but just never being able to.

mushroom1997 · 01-18-2003, 01:46 PM

Hi Butterfly. I have talked to a therapist too. He said that there are medications and they do help. He had enough different kinds when we met but he wouldn't take them for one reason or another. (More like he collected them.) I know where you are comming from when you say "I'm struggling because I love him. He "performed" so well in the beginning that it hooked me...but it feels good to know it's not my fault."
We had 2 good years then things went downhill. I lived the next 3 waiting for changes but it was empty promises. Always the wrong time to go a therapist but would run to a medical doctor and let them run all kinds of tests hoping to find something there. (running up dr bills too) He put on a good front for everyone else. He came off looking like this nice quiet person that would do anything for anyone. Get upset if he saw someone else being treated badly but ok if he did it to me, cause it was no ones business what went on in our home. That was his way. He wouldn't give me the time of day but had time to run around and flirt with anyone else. If it serves him he can keep it together for awhile. Right or wrong I went ahead with the divorce and a new life.
I don't mean to sound hard because I did love him but it died a slow painful death. It takes a toll on all that are living in a situation such as that and in the long run does more damage than good.