It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here....

 HealthBoards > Search Boards > Search Results
Lightbulb

Search   Advanced Search
Page 1 of 3 1 23
Showing results 1 to 50 of 117
Search took 0.27 seconds. Search: Posts Made By: CadenceA

Alternative to Searching: Try our message board index!
Board: Relationship Health 03-30-2013, 10:44 AM
Replies: 60
Views: 2,868
Posted By CadenceA
Re: desperate advice needed

When you go back to your ex (which I have to say I knew all along you would do since you refused to end contact with him) please don't be surprised when he starts hitting and abusing you again. He's...
Board: Relationship Health 10-25-2012, 12:28 PM
Replies: 38
Views: 3,055
Posted By CadenceA
Re: I don't even know how to title this...

IMO it all boils down to how you feel you have to depend on a man to give you your self-worth.

You now are going to stay with him because you need him to validate you. You can't validate yourself...
Board: Sexually Transmitted Diseases 10-19-2012, 10:16 AM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,134
Posted By CadenceA
Re: It's really over

I could tell you about my friend who has an inoperable brain tumor (cancerous) who lost all her hair due to chemo and radiation treatments, or about my friend with herpes who is happily married with...
Board: Relationship Health 10-06-2012, 11:08 AM
Replies: 11
Views: 920
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Girlfriends "prank" ruined my comp; won't pay for replacement.

Replace her conditioner with Nair. Then, when her hair falls out, burst out laughing and tell her "oh come on, you can wear a hat!!"

Then dump her.
Board: Relationship Health 10-03-2012, 03:12 PM
Replies: 34
Views: 1,868
Posted By CadenceA
Re: I really think I am done this time...

I think adding to all the very normal things a young woman your age is dealing with is you continue to allow yourself to stay stuck in relationships that are unsatisfying, with men you say you aren't...
Board: Relationship Health 09-14-2012, 06:13 PM
Replies: 13
Views: 1,776
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Ex Gf begging me back and I feel very bad!

The advice hasn't changed. No contact! You can't possibly move on when you insist on continuing contact. But honestly, I think you enjoy reading what she sends you. I think you believe you two...
Board: Relationship Health 08-05-2012, 05:59 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 1,074
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Urgent need of help with a Man I believe is trying to steal my girfriend away!

I still believe that if your relationship is strong and she truly loves you, it wouldn't matter if he showed up with 10,000 red roses, a new car and promised her the world, she wouldn't be...
Board: Relationship Health 08-05-2012, 03:19 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 1,074
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Urgent need of help with a Man I believe is trying to steal my girfriend away!

IMO, you're not asking the right questions. To me, the important questions are:

1. How does your girlfriend feel about this guy Aztec?
2. How does your girlfriend feel about you and her...
Board: Relationship Health 07-25-2012, 05:48 PM
Replies: 11
Views: 1,078
Posted By CadenceA
Re: He couldn't look at me

The fact that you "had" to let him see you looking your best and that you still contact him proves that while you might no longer be in love with him, you still care what he thinks about you. And...
Board: Relationship Health 07-08-2012, 03:53 PM
Replies: 27
Views: 4,412
Posted By CadenceA
Re: I've asked my boyfriend to stop looking at pictures of women

This hurts you because YOU feel inadequate. He's not doing anything to you, but rather it's something that brings out insecurities in you.

Hopefully you haven't told him "if you loved me, you'd...
Board: Relationship Health 06-27-2012, 05:41 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 573
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Confused

If you two have opposite views on things as important as sex and religion, then it's best to end it now before you become emotionally attached and then try to convince yourself it doesn't matter....
Board: Relationship Health 06-11-2012, 05:36 PM
Replies: 75
Views: 13,144
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Girlfriend of 4 years lied & cheated, wants me back

Why haven't you told your ex you have a new girlfriend?

Is it because if you do, SHE may decide to move on and date other men, and you can't tolerate the thought of her deciding she's done with...
Board: Relationship Health 06-08-2012, 06:49 PM
Replies: 9
Views: 1,084
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Dealing with an angry partner

Can you ask your father, a brother, a cousin or a male friend to be with you when you move out?

I write this assuming you realize that you can't "get him help" and you can't convince him to get...
Board: Relationship Health 06-06-2012, 05:38 PM
Replies: 75
Views: 13,144
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Girlfriend of 4 years lied & cheated, wants me back

It really hasn't been that long with no contact. You wrote only a month ago that you two were still in contact, so even if you ended all contact that same day it's only been a few weeks at most...so...
Board: Relationship Health 05-20-2012, 08:38 AM
Replies: 10
Views: 1,254
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Help... is there something wrong with us or is it just me?

That's just one more example of how this guy isn't right for you. You want a man who will make you more of a priority, and this guy doesn't. And he's not going to "change", and, well, he shouldn't!...
Board: Relationship Health 05-18-2012, 04:41 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 1,254
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Help...is there something wrong with us or is it just me?

I never understand the arguement for staying in a bad relationship because time has been invested. If you bought a dress that didn't fit wouldn't you take it back? Or would you argue "I invested...
Board: Relationship Health 05-15-2012, 06:03 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 905
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Am I being Paranoid?

My ex and I broke up because he was constantly cheating and telling lies. He pursued me for YEARS after I left him, begging for another chance. Finally I gave in and went back. So what did he...
Board: Relationship Health 05-12-2012, 11:37 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 1,148
Posted By CadenceA
Re: How Can I Fix Things With Him?

It breaks my heart to read how sadly low your standards are for what makes a good boyfriend.

He calls you names and says hurtful things, but since he doesn't do it every day, that makes it ok. He...
Board: Relationship Health 04-18-2012, 06:30 PM
Replies: 75
Views: 13,144
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Girlfriend of 4 years lied & cheated, wants me back

I second what Kszan said.

You're doing to her what she did to you! You're telling her you want no contact, yet you're contacting her to tell her you love her and miss her and are thinking about...
Board: Relationship Health 04-18-2012, 06:12 AM
Replies: 75
Views: 13,144
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Girlfriend of 4 years lied & cheated, wants me back

She says, she says, she says. I'd put very little value on what she "says", particularly with her history of lying.

I hope you realize that she's not regretting what she did because it hurt YOU,...
Board: Relationship Health 04-16-2012, 05:50 PM
Replies: 3
Views: 430
Posted By CadenceA
Re: why cant i move on when he has

Are you still communicating with your ex? Do you talk on the phone, text, IM or email? Do you check his F-Book page? Or, God forbid, are you still intimate with him?

Everywhere, you will read...
Board: Relationship Health 04-14-2012, 09:38 AM
Replies: 75
Views: 13,144
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Girlfriend of 4 years lied & cheated, wants me back

You're absolutely right, you don't want to end it. You're enjoying all this emotional back & forth, enjoying her declarations of love and the way she's saying she can't live without you. It's a...
Board: Relationship Health 04-01-2012, 07:46 PM
Replies: 75
Views: 13,144
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Girlfriend of 4years lied & cheated, wants me back

I find it interesting that she lied, cheated and abused you physically and verbally...and YOU feel pity for HER! No wonder she wants to hold on to you! There aren't many people out there who accept...
Board: Relationship Health 04-01-2012, 05:18 PM
Replies: 75
Views: 13,144
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Girlfriend of 4years lied & cheated, wants me back

News flash...that's not love, that's unhealthy obsession and dependence.

Love is supposed to feel good. Love does not include abuse of any form, it does not include lying, cheating and taking...
Board: Relationship Health 03-30-2012, 05:52 PM
Replies: 75
Views: 13,144
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Girlfriend of 4years lied & cheated, wants me back

Sounds wonderful...NOT!

If you go back, you go back realizing that she will continue to do all of these things and more, because by going back you are telling her that you will not only accept the...
Board: Relationship Health 03-27-2012, 08:13 PM
Replies: 6
Views: 989
Posted By CadenceA
Re: A gift we don't approve of?

My husband and I too did not want our son playing with toy weapons or action figures. My BIL (my husband's brother) actually said to us "that's ridiculous, I'm buying him toy guns and action...
Board: Relationship Health 03-04-2012, 09:15 AM
Replies: 4
Views: 837
Posted By CadenceA
Re: He Always Pops Back Up

Dr. Phil says the best indicator of future behavior is past behavior.

I've learned that people don't change fundamentally. They are who they are. They may learn how to behave and react...
Board: Relationship Health 03-02-2012, 06:32 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 816
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Concerned for her lack of concern

Sounds like you want her to be jealous and you're disappointed that she's not.

Reverse psychology doesn't always work, you know. I know someone whose wife told him she wanted a divorce, so he...
Board: Relationship Health 02-26-2012, 09:17 AM
Replies: 11
Views: 6,107
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Husband doesn't support me financially, and it's tearing me apart

I advise you to take your child and move in with your father. Since he pays all the bills, you might as well. It would mean less bills for your father to pay! Let your husband know that when he's...
Board: Relationship Health 02-22-2012, 07:01 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,406
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Need your advice, please...

I have never shown "love" by screaming at my child until he was terrified of me. I'm not sure in what culture that is accepted as "love".

I realize that in some cultures, the wife is required...
Board: Relationship Health 02-21-2012, 06:07 PM
Replies: 14
Views: 1,406
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Need your advice, please...

Positive reinforcement doesn't work with abusers. All that does is tell them that you are not only accepting of their abuse, but that you are willing to be encouraging while they abuse you. Not to...
Board: Relationship Health 02-19-2012, 04:02 PM
Replies: 16
Views: 6,957
Posted By CadenceA
Re: How to get over being left for someone else?

Whether he did or didn't is irrelevant, except of course, to you, because you have placed so much importance and have put your own emotional well-being on hold in your search for answers. And you've...
Board: Relationship Health 02-19-2012, 09:35 AM
Replies: 16
Views: 6,957
Posted By CadenceA
Re: How to get over being left for someone else?

Are you talking to a therapist?

I think the biggest reason you haven't progressed is that you still think he "owes" you an apology, or an explanation, or that he "should" have missed you and tried...
Board: Relationship Health 02-18-2012, 05:02 PM
Replies: 16
Views: 1,579
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Am I being needy?

I agree with Kszan...he's "disabled" but he can go to parties and rock concerts? And be out all day 5 days a week? Is he supposed to be physically disabled?

Aside from that, why can't he bring...
Board: Relationship Health 02-18-2012, 11:22 AM
Replies: 10
Views: 1,338
Posted By CadenceA
Re: He lied to me for over a year.

You can't get him to change. You can't get anyone to change. And honestly, it really isn't right to ask, cajole, demand or in any other way request that someone change for you. What if he asks you...
Board: Relationship Health 09-30-2011, 07:02 PM
Replies: 12
Views: 1,182
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Do all men do this?

Did your therapist have any insights into this? Because although these 2 men are different as far as career paths and education, they really are very similar with regard to personality traits. So...
Board: Relationship Health 09-23-2011, 07:05 PM
Replies: 8
Views: 3,549
Posted By CadenceA
Re: To move or not to move.. Unsure about relationship.

Good choice.

Things wouldn't get better if you moved in with him, they'd get WORSE. He would soon enough forbid you to see your friends (they'll all be bums, stupid, or stupid bums) and probably...
Board: Relationship Health 09-21-2011, 08:36 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 2,044
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Absolutely sick and tired of it

You say he's not abusive, but he is. Abuse isn't limited to punching and breaking bones. He's emotionally and verbally abusive. You've traded one abuser for another.

I wouldn't waste time with...
Board: Relationship Health 09-12-2011, 01:22 PM
Replies: 13
Views: 1,706
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Tomorrow

I can tell you how it will probably go...

He will either 1) ignore your request (after all, he didn't respond to your barrage of emails before), leaving you starting fresh with new feelings of...
Board: Relationship Health 09-07-2011, 06:26 PM
Replies: 25
Views: 2,890
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Relapse

Calling his new GF all those names might make you feel better but it really makes you look jealous and petty. You want him to ditch her and come back to you (even if it's just for your ego) and he...
Board: Relationship Health 09-05-2011, 10:06 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 1,689
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Promise Ring...Yes...NO..????

If you take a cheater back, that's as good as saying "go ahead and cheat on me! I've proven that I'll accept your cheating!" Him just saying he's "changed" doesn't mean a darn thing. What did he...
Board: Relationship Health 09-04-2011, 04:19 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 1,762
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Completely unsure about this whole "dating" thing...

I believe it's only "wrong" if you don't let him know that's all he's going to be to you. Don't deceive him and lead him to believe that you view him as your boyfriend, partner, whatever. Be...
Board: Relationship Health 09-03-2011, 03:49 PM
Replies: 7
Views: 1,762
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Completely unsure about this whole "dating" thing...

I've said this to you before, but I think it bears repeating...

I think you should seriously rethink your reasons for staying in this relationship. Otherwise, if you're really not all that into...
Board: Relationship Health 08-24-2011, 07:52 PM
Replies: 2
Views: 877
Posted By CadenceA
Re: I wonder if he still wants to be with me....

You "tested" him a lot in the recent past, didn't you?

After a while, people get tired of being "tested". I'm betting that, along with the stress of supporting you financially, is contributing to...
Board: Relationship Health 08-22-2011, 07:24 PM
Replies: 10
Views: 1,764
Posted By CadenceA
Re: head and heart!

If you don't say something, how is he to know you're dissatisfied?

I understand, you are worried about scaring him off. If he feels the same way you do, he won't run. However, if he doesn't,...
Board: Relationship Health 08-22-2011, 09:38 AM
Replies: 7
Views: 1,014
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Brokenheart

I had an ex of mine contact me, being nice, wanting to stay in touch and be friends. Then after about 2 weeks I received a text from his number asking who I was. The next day I received another one...
Board: Relationship Health 08-04-2011, 06:24 PM
Replies: 9
Views: 2,604
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Dinner Date With Ex?

She DOES have feelings for her ex. She is still making herself responsible for his happiness (i.e., not wanting to tell him about you because it will upset him). I'm guessing there was a LOT of...
Board: Relationship Health 08-02-2011, 06:28 PM
Replies: 35
Views: 4,161
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Kept in the dark....

A plan...first of all, NO Contact!!! None. Don't answer his calls, don't read his texts (delete without reading), better yet change your number (yes, you can). Don't go online and look for him,...
Board: Relationship Health 07-30-2011, 07:51 AM
Replies: 5
Views: 880
Posted By CadenceA
Re: Confused

Things NEVER "just go away". You have to do something to make them go away.

You've told him it bothers you. He continues. Therefore, a serious talk is called for. Ask him if he's continued...
Board: Relationship Health 07-28-2011, 05:40 PM
Replies: 13
Views: 5,328
Posted By CadenceA
Re: What can I say to my boyfriend to make him feel better????

Well, if he's not willing to stop smoking weed, then he's always going to be broke! End of story!

I bet you don't go out and buy yourself an outfit if it means you will be broke the rest of the...
Showing results 1 to 50 of 117
Page 1 of 3 1 23

 











All times are GMT -7. The time now is 01:52 AM.

Home - About Us - Archive - Search - Privacy - Disclaimer - FAQ - Tags - Site Map - Advertise With Us - Contact Us - Top


Site owned and operated by HealthBoards.com™
Copyright and Terms of Use © 1998-2013 HealthBoards.com™ All rights reserved.
Do not copy or redistribute in any form!