Re: what happens when i tell the school about a friend cutting
Well that depends on several variables, like how old your friend is, what type of counselor you tell, I'm imagining the Guidance Counselor. If we're talking Jr. High age, the Guidance Counselor would probably contact the students parents, I would think.
If it's a High School age student and you told the Guidance Counselor, I'm not sure that they would contact the parents. Sometimes once the student knows that their awful secret is out, it's a relief and they then let the Counselor call the parents in and tell them together, so it's easier that way.
Have you thought of perhaps going to the Guidance Counselor and saying, "I have a friend, whom wants to remain anonymous at this time, what would happen if I told you......", maybe then you would feel better about the whole situation.
Good luck and know that you can come here for support, this is a very large and heavy burden to carry on yourself alone.