are you ok? can you call someone? how can we help?
there are other ways to cope - take a long shower, draw, write down everything in your head on a piece of paper - get all the thoughts out - tear it up afterwards if you need to
go out somewhere for a walk - talk to a friend - watch a movie - smell aflower - treat yourself to a coffee and cake in a coffee shop - walk until all the energy is gone - even if you pace in your flat or house or bedroom - that works for me a lot
I hope you wil come back and tell us how you are doing MBC
I've tried writing and watching movies and going for walks. There isn't a whole lot I can do. I have a baby and I'm raising her on my own. It just seems so impossible all the time. Maybe if everything weren't so hard and falling apart it would be easier...
Here are some coping skills my Psychologist gave me:
okay, let's rehash some alternative coping skills...put your tight rubber band on your wrist, not so tight that it cuts the circulation off, and everytime you have the slightest urge, snap the crap out of that rubberband, and your wrist.
Next, if you cut for the pain of it, fill a bowl with ice, wet your hand then tape a ziploc baggy over it, thrust your hand in the bowl of ice for 5 - 10 minutes or until you cannot stand it....it will hurt like a son of a b****. If it doesn't get rid of the urge...keep doing it over and over again.
If you need the symbolic part of it, seeing the blood, like me, put a very tight non latex glove on, I use the Mr. Clean brand 'cuz they are see through and it looks like my skin....I use a red marker to act like I'm cutting myself then take red food coloring and drip it down my hand over the glove....my brain gets the symbolic message that it needs and if it doesn't I repeat it until it does.
Get one of those, autograph bears, or dolls, that are plain white....cut them with red markers, wherever you want to cut yourself, write your name on the dolls forehead and let it be you and cut(mark) it as much as you want....without actually harming yourself.
Try these okay, or at least one of them....anything except hurting yourself. Remember you're strong and you can go without hurting yourself. And we're here for you, 'kay? I'm here all the time, late at night, early in the morning and during the day, yell if you need to talk, I'll getback to you ASAP.
It doesn't matter how you harm yourself, you can alter the methods to work for you. Basically releif of pain/stress is all the same. I posted another thread titled, "Alternative Coping Skills." Take a look at it, I added some that aren't on yours.