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Old 05-19-2009, 11:46 AM   #1
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Unhappy I havent cut in 3 years until now

I don't get it after 3 years!!! I just now feel like i am back at square one and all the work and time i have spent trying to fix myself was worthless. does anyboday have any suggestions/tips/ideas because obviously mine arent working for me anymore...

 
Old 05-19-2009, 02:56 PM   #2
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Re: I havent cut in 3 years until now

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I don't get it after 3 years!!! I just now feel like i am back at square one and all the work and time i have spent trying to fix myself was worthless. does anyboday have any suggestions/tips/ideas because obviously mine arent working for me anymore...
Shrimp,

I hate to dissapoint you but I don't think we can ever "fix" ourselves. We're human and we're not perfect. We are going to screw up and make ourselves feel awful about it. I am not a believer that if one stops cutting that they will never ever have the urge to cut again. All the work you did got you to the point where you can control the things that get you to the point that you want with the correct coping skills. So all you have to do is Remember the skills you used, trust them, and know that they will work. Because they do work and you know that, they've worked for the last 3 years! Just trust in yourself, believe in yourself and don't panic because that just makes the urges worse. I believe in you that you can get yourself under control and get your urges under control also.

Stay safe...

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Old 05-19-2009, 06:12 PM   #3
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Re: I havent cut in 3 years until now

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I don't get it after 3 years!!! I just now feel like i am back at square one and all the work and time i have spent trying to fix myself was worthless. does anyboday have any suggestions/tips/ideas because obviously mine arent working for me anymore...
Hi there,
It is extremely frustrating to fall back into old behaviors after not doing so for such a long time! I've been there myself. Try not to feel that you have to start from square one though. It was not worthless. Sometimes we relapse, and this is the hardest most complicated thing to understand.
If you have started back into self injuring and need support , than going into therapy can help you discuss your feelings safely . It is better to talk about things and get it out verbally then keep it inside , and then direct it onto oneself.
People self harm for different reasons, it's personal and it means something to that person.
My reasons are not the same as it is for you, ect. I will tell you the Self injury came back many, many years after I thought it was over for me. I never ever dreamed that I'd do it again.
Cathy

 
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