It appears you have not yet Signed Up with our community. To Sign Up for free, please click here....

Self-injury Recovery Message Board
Post New Thread   Closed Thread
LinkBack Thread Tools
Old 04-14-2010, 09:19 PM   #1
Junior Member
Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: WI
Posts: 41
DEA5 HB User
How do you respond regarding scars?

How should I respond when someone asks me about my scars? I honestly don't know what to say if they don't automatically know what they are from. I usually say something as to an old injury. Most people would think I'm crazy I'm sure.

Last edited by Administrator; 04-14-2010 at 10:25 PM.

Old 04-15-2010, 05:03 PM   #2
Senior Member
Join Date: Mar 2010
Posts: 159
jellybread HB Userjellybread HB Userjellybread HB User
Re: How do you respond regarding scars?

I always hide my scars the best that I can. But if anyone asks I would say "it's just past stuff and I don't want to talk about it, I'm okay now don't worry about it". And if they asked what happened in the past, I would say "I'd appreciate it if you don't ask ever because that is personal and i don't want to talk about it but I am okay" and then I would change the subject of the conversation. Hopefully the person is not a nagging person and would try to pry out info. Usually people will respect your personal past and not ask if you tell them you don't want to talk about it. hope that helps.

Sponsors Lightbulb
Old 03-09-2011, 03:22 AM   #3
Join Date: Mar 2011
Location: Sacramento, California
Posts: 1
SupermansSpeedo HB User
Re: How do you respond regarding scars?

When I first started wearing short sleeves, one of my coworkers (kind of a friend) asked me,"What happened to your arms??" I answered her by simply saying "I fell down."
She looked at me like I was crazy and honestly trying to pass that off to her as an excuse, then called me a liar. Which made me laugh because it was so absurd. Uncomfortable situation averted! ha

It's pretty obvious where the scars came from so if someone asks I generally use sarcasm or a lame joke. It makes it easier.
Although if it's someone I don't know asking about my business, I just say "nothing" or wave it off.


Old 04-08-2011, 11:24 PM   #4
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: North Creek, NY, USA
Posts: 7
TyrannicMushroo HB User
Re: How do you respond regarding scars?

Personally, I'm the type that deals with discomfort by making jokes out of it, so I tell people I got into a fight with a chainsaw. People give you this really startled look at first, then start laughing and don't really press it... it works for me.

Old 04-10-2011, 05:37 AM   #5
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: United States
Posts: 9
Ambler HB User
Re: How do you respond regarding scars?

I told an Army doctor about my fictional "incident with barbed wire" to explain a multitude of scars. The doctor clearly didn't believe it, but he couldn't reasonably prove or disprove the validity of my claim.

Normally, I hide any healing wounds. However, I pridefully think of my more mature scars as badges of courage. In this regard, I'm actually ok with talking about them because my being open on the issue may help others understand the nature of self-injury and see my perspective. Although I must also admit that I do sometimes see scars simultaneously as symbols of weakness (depending on my mood). In general, I think of my scars as reminders of the most intense points in my personal past, certainly nothing to be ashamed of - I didn't ask for the hurt or wish a lack of alternate coping resources upon myself.

I think its best to live with the consequences of your actions - don't hide your scars, embrace them as a part of your body - exquisitely soft and sensitive. Hide them only if you have a compelling reason to do so (such as a job interview).

Last edited by Ambler; 04-10-2011 at 05:49 AM.

Old 04-11-2011, 12:18 AM   #6
Junior Member
Join Date: Jan 2011
Location: uk
Posts: 15
always8 HB User
Re: How do you respond regarding scars?

Lots to say regarding this subject, but I just wanted to make a quick comment: I have prominent scars on my lower arms and hands.. Hate it when people 'talk to my arms'! I always watch their gaze wander to my scars :-/

Old 04-11-2011, 05:06 AM   #7
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: America
Posts: 5
Mody HB User
Re: How do you respond regarding scars?

This should not be case of worry one should say that it is the reason of some old injury or one can say that even i don't know because I was very young when it was happened.

Old 04-11-2011, 08:54 AM   #8
Join Date: Mar 2008
Posts: 5,070
katlin09 HB User
Re: How do you respond regarding scars?

I use the old I was in a car wreck and my arms went through the window so far.

Old 05-10-2011, 05:22 PM   #9
Senior Member
Join Date: Jul 2004
Location: Down South, Baton Rouge
Posts: 157
Lightbulb Re: How do you respond regarding scars?

I am recovered from serious self-injury but still have multiple scars. Even in middle age I am still confronted with my past. Many scars are from long-ago surgeries due to self-injury but there are some deep scars on left arm & wrist. I spent 8 hours in emergency department recently for vision loss in left eye. There I was, completely stressed, mostly blind in one eye when a young doctor began questioning me about the scars on my arm! I just dismissed his questions with "those are very old." I'm sure he knew it was from self-injury but hopefully he also understood that was "behind me." At least now the condition is "out in the open" & sufferers are not considered freakish (although there will always be people who judge or criticize). When I first began self-mutilating as a teenager, I thought I was the only one!!! I still remember being shocked during my first psychiatric hospitalization, when I saw another patient with obvious self-inflicted cuts.
Although I have fully recovered from self-injury (resulting from severe Borderline Personality Disorder) the scars are a permanent reminder of my behaviors. I actually view them as sort of a "badge of courage," proof that if I overcame all of that, I can face whatever comes next. I regret the destruction I did to my body, but I am NOT ashamed! I would never have done any of that if I had been emotionally healthy.
Champagne for my real friends & real pain for my sham friends! (teehee)

Old 05-10-2011, 07:29 PM   #10
Join Date: Mar 2008
Posts: 5,070
katlin09 HB User
Re: How do you respond regarding scars?

okay I have serious scars on my lower arms and hands from self injury, I had to get 48 stitches in 4 weeks. I don't try to hide them by wearing long sleeve shirts all the time. If people want to ask what their from i usually tell them their from a car accident or I tripped and fell through a sliding glass door. Just something normal like that, nothing over the top. I don't tell people the truth becasue it's none of their business.

Old 05-16-2011, 02:25 AM   #11
Join Date: May 2011
Location: Canada
Posts: 3
Dbtwarrior74 HB User
Re: How do you respond regarding scars?

I just say I got injured and thats when I let people see them which is not often, sometimes when I've healed and it's hot outside I won't cover up

Old 05-27-2011, 02:45 PM   #12
Senior Member
Join Date: May 2011
Location: North Palm Beach Florida
Posts: 104
ghelpmelivelife HB Userghelpmelivelife HB Userghelpmelivelife HB Userghelpmelivelife HB User
Re: How do you respond regarding scars?

Great Question!!! I always say, I had a crazy bird or cat. And they just look at me like, yeah right... (that is how i feel anyway) But, the last time i cut, will be very hard to explain and I am worried because i am about to start job hunting again. Hopefully, i will get a job at one of the mental hosp. in my area with my degree then, people can see i can really relate to them and maybe i can help more people, because that is the ONLY thing that helps me, is helping others!

Closed Thread

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Board Replies Last Post
Please help me indented scars horrible texture myinspiration Rosacea 1 04-07-2009 11:16 AM
dr taking pain meds away!! please respond really need help1! kaydenxo Fibromyalgia 4 11-09-2007 07:21 PM
long message, but please respond..... arbegla Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) 4 06-23-2006 08:20 AM
MY SKIN COMPLEXION and LIGHTING - PLEASE RESPOND AND HELP surfinillini Acne 14 04-13-2006 12:20 PM
Acne scars SpoiledCutie258 Acne 1 03-28-2005 11:48 PM

Thread Tools

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is Off
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off

Join Our Newsletter

Stay healthy through tips curated by our health experts.


There was a problem adding your email Try again

Thank You

Your email has been added


katlin09 (20), flamesabers (10), ghelpmelivelife (3), Phoenix (3), tearsnfears (2), MaddieLovesNPH (2), Administrator (2), bloodytears (2), nomeatforme63 (2), Ambler (1)

Site Wide Totals

teteri66 (1139), MSJayhawk (943), Apollo123 (860), janewhite1 (823), Titchou (774), Gabriel (743), ladybud (667), sammy64 (666), midwest1 (655), BlueSkies14 (610)

All times are GMT -7. The time now is 06:24 AM.

Site owned and operated by™
Copyright and Terms of Use © 1998-2014 HealthBoards.comô All rights reserved.
Do not copy or redistribute in any form!