Originally Posted by TuntuKR
It's already been one year since I hooked up with my girlfriend, she is so much more intelligent than me. However, she is good at everything and makes me feel useless. Right know I'm doing bad at most of my activities and she has been asked to start learning piano at a conservatory by the same piano teacher I go to. (Of course, I haven't been asked)
I can't even express how dumb I feel.
I put so much effort in everything and she does it better just by blinking her eyes.
She says she notices me "a bit distant".
How can I make this situation better? I'm not going to tell her that the fact that she's better than me makes me sad. I want her to do everything she can, succeed in whatever she wants to. (Plus she's a hell of an artist)
You are putting way too much pressure on yourself.
Please try not to view your relationship from such a negative standpoint(I know;easier said than done).
Some people are better at things than others.
Don't sell yourself short.You are an intelligent individual.
There's a reason the two of you are together;maybe she helps to bring out the best in you at times and even vice-versa.
Have a "heart-to-heart" talk with her,explaining certain aspects of the relationship in general.
Are you opposed to seeing a therapist or being placed on medication?
The more unsure you are about the relationship,the greater the likelihood that she'll begin to place the blame on herself.
You really don't want that because what was once perceived as a few items of concern,can easily turn a
mountain,in a matter of minutes.