Is he to young? - Sexual Dysfunction Treatment Message Board

alazay · 01-26-2001, 09:35 AM

My husband is 22 years old. For the five years that we have been together he never lasts that long in bed. It was really bad in highschool. For the last couple of years he last about 10-15 minutes. On a good day if I'm lucky....it can last 20. Is something wrong with him. Will he ever grow out of this? Does he need viagra?

TrickyDick · 01-26-2001, 02:35 PM

Hey Alazay,
Fancy meeting you here...I really need more info.
But, if your saying he can only stay errect for 15-20 (no ejaculation), then Viagra might help.
If your saying he can only go for 15-20 minutes before ejaculation then your hubby is lasting about 5-10 min more than the average male. (according to what I read).
In this case it might help him recover faster as in wait time between errections.
As men age and as they become more experienced and learn to relax and enjoy the running of the "race", instead of trying to win the race they can and do last longer.

Viagra works on the blood circulation by relaxing the walls of the major blood vessels which allows more blood flow.
Sexual desire must be present for it to work.
And as you know that desire kinda wains and sleepness occurs after ejaculation for most men.

I would suggest that you allow him to spend more time on you doing things to you you like before he engages in intercourse, so you might be further along.
another suggestion is that when he gets almost "there" is for him to stop and withdraw and continue in other manners untill he learns better control.
If I am not understanding or not being helpful I apoligise ahead of time.
Peace

[This message has been edited by TrickyDick (edited 01-26-2001).]

alazay · 01-26-2001, 07:43 PM

Acctually 20 minutes is too long for him. That is probably the longest we have ever had sex in five years. He last for 5-10 minutes..then he ejaculates. He cannot last any longer than this. He has no problem becoming erect..he just can't have sex very long. It is kind of annoying sometimes.

tup · 01-31-2001, 04:52 PM

Ladies before gentleman! He should spend more time in foreplay to get you really hot before he enters you. Also he can pull out and continue to use his mouth and fingers if he feels he's close to ejaulating. He can cool off a bit while you continue to climb. Of course at 22 it's hard to put the brakes on but he should put your satisfaction before his own. Even if he orgasms first he can continue to do what you need to get off. After all lesbians don't need a penis to give each other orgasms.

alazay · 01-31-2001, 08:52 PM

Its not that he doesn't care about making me happy..he is really great at the foreplay then, he is really good at sex too, I just doesn't last long enough, and we are not sure why. We have been having sex every other day for five years. I would think that just because he is young, he would have already gotten over the excited thing. I think something is wrong with him.